role reversal

[justakid]

I'm 25. My boyfriend is two years older than I, and we've been dating for six years. He was (and is) my first serious boyfriend. As a beau, he's done everything right: He's gentle, caring, attentive, supportive. He tells me he loves me every day. We almost never fight. We have the same religious views. My parents like him. Etc, etc

Comments

[anonymous]

If your boyfriend is as understanding as you make him out to be then he should be able to understand your feelings.

Talk to him about it.

Marriage isn't for everyone.

[wraparoundjoy]

I agree with this 100%, but I do have to encourage you to dig down and wonder why you're almost afraid of marriage. Or do you just not like the idea of a wedding itself?

I can sympathize since I am also 25, and before my husband, I had been engaged two other times. I had to break it off because I wasn't ready and knew I couldn't go through with it.

Oh, and please tell him that you do in fact want to spend the rest of your life with him.

[hannahs_eclipse]

You have every right to want things to stay the way they are. He seems like a great guy and you have a great relationship, you have ever right not to want to ruin that *not at ALL saying marriage will* but if he is your FIRST serious boyfriend than these feelings are normal. Don't feel bad, you have all the time in the world to get married, he will understand.

[emdi111]

You are not alone. I used to buy into romantic lovey-dovey stuff, but now I feel like I have too much to do with my life to worry about being one half of a whole... I mean relationships are great, don't get me wrong... maybe I'm just afraid of commitment, but I don't like the idea of being tied down.

Above poster was right-- marriage isn't for everyone.