What would the solution be if I weren't weird about this?

[aeiou]

Recently I read the book "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves", by Naomi Aldort. The gist of the book, what I got from it, was that in the process of raising a child, there are many situations where our own experiences can get in the way of helping the child. Our own hang-ups over things can interfere with how we interact with the child. If a

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[dragonxbait]

So I have hung ups abotu a lot of things, but food is not one of them. I will tell you how we deal with food

[aeiou]

I totally have an idea of how to handle food, which I got from Ellyn Satter's website about division of responsibility wrt food, where the parents decide what and when and the kid decides if they're going to eat and how much. I'm totally down with that. Thing is, whenever she's eating these puffs (and I think it's really only the puffs because somehow in my mind they're less food-like for some reason, like they're less good for her in my mind even though I know they aren't), I get these visions of myself eating in ways that I'm trying to learn not to do (eating just because rather than for hunger, eating more because I'm bored, etc.) and I need to just not project those feelings onto her. I'm going to try teaching her the "more" sign, and use it when I give her more puffs and such.

Also, she almost nurses as regularly as she did before solids, so I'm not really worried about her nutrition, I just get these weird thoughts in my head that I need to deal with that are totally unrelated to her but come up when I'm thinking about her.

[dragonxbait]

Yeah, that totally makes sense. I have generally taken that approach with kids I have cared for, although I do give choices or ask what they would like fairly often as well. I am sure we will find the best way to meet our childrens individual needs as they grow.