Making People Invisible

[aelf]

It bothers me when things that are supposed to make people visible, make others invisible. Especially when the people that are being made invisible lack the same support networks that the now really visible people have

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[reedrover]

Thankfully, within my wider circle of acquaintances, we are not suffering from a silencing. I've seen more than one man post, and one lesbian post, and all were included in the subsequent dialog.

[aelf]

I'm glad that's happening in some places. My facebook feed is heavy on the male bashing and women worshiping. It's frustrating that many women who are metoo'ing all over the place and combining it with "men need to learn!" aren't also considering whether they have, unasked, sat on someone's lap, etc. Things that women often consider cute or flirtatious, but can be just as offensive and hurtful as the things men often consider cute or flirtatious.

My sensitivity on this also makes me think I need to be sent back to college at one of those schools where everyone has to carry around a consent form with all sorts of things on it, because wow does this start to look at special snowflakey and why can't people just be people.

[reedrover]

And yes, men as the recipients of assault are often silenced and marginalized in a way that women are not. While women are blamed, they are not made inhuman. Men are told that obviously they "aren't men" if they can't defend themselves. *sigh*

[aelf]

*nods* and Alyssa Milano's original suggestion was not made just to women, as I understand it. It could have been a really inclusive, supportive thing. Terry Crews spoke out and I'd think many men might have felt supported and encouraged by that.

Yeah, here it is "If you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted write 'me too' as a reply to this tweet" ... men joining in aren't devaluing women in any way. It's showing how pervasive this behavior is.