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[aerospider]

So, I find it odd that people respond only when i am negative or depressed. People don't really seem to give a shit when I have something happy to report. And you wonder why I'm always so dismal and dejected. It's the only way I know to get people to respond to me.

Comments

[dieram]

Chance, Have you ever thought that maybe people respond more often when you are negative, because it's easier. If you're happy and cheery, what can we say besides, "that's cool man". Comments like those don't strike us as needed as much. They also seem very mundane and sometimes even perhaps ungenuine. When someone is being negative and depressed, there are so many more things we can say, not mention it's more pressing a subject. I know it isn't the most supportive, or seemingly positive way of doing things. It is however how I have noticed them to work.

[garythemidget]

People respond to you being negative because it gives them a chance to tell you exactly how you are fucking up from their perspective. Hence giving them a feeling of superiority over you which is what has fueled humanity since the beginning of time. If we can't feel superior to someone, how can we feel worth anything to ourselves? It's more fun to kick people when you think they're below you than above you. Schadenfreude dude.

[eliacek]

Some people may get an ego trip from kicking people while they're down, but not all. Many genuinely want to help and others may have screwed up in the same area themselves therefore know from experience how it feels and what can happen from that. People who seek pleasure from squishing people when they're depressed are sadistic and psychologically unhealthy freaks, so to imply that that is the norm isn't true. You could take that approach if you're cynical or just want to play the victim, and should that be the case the only one you hurt is yourself. You're only isolating yourself from those that do care.

[garythemidget]

Well of course I'm not saying EVERYONE is trying to get an ego boost from responding to someone's negative life. Any statement that encompasses the entirety the human race would have to be pretty much covered in ignorance, but mine wasn't. Why do you think it's easier to come up with a response for someone saying something bad happened to them instead of something good? That's the way people tend to be wired. Of course there's the odd person who actually feels like they can help, and are earnestly putting forth effort to make a difference in other's lives, but that's the odd person. Either way being cynical is neither a vice nor a virtue, it's just another way of getting through life. We all have them.

[dieram]

I know I may be the odd person. But I was raised to know that that's the right way to handle it. So I also believe that I shouldn't be the odd person, that and most of friends happen to be like me in that regard, so please don't tell Chance that his friends are merely getting an ego trip from replying to his depressed and down states.