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af_jester

The Notebook Guy

Jan 11, 2009 12:57

So i have been toying with the idea of writing about this for about a week now ( Read more... )

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shorty1012 January 15 2009, 05:12:56 UTC

Chris,
To wonder what "every" girl wants could drive a man crazy, We all want something different. Sure. we all want a "nice guy".. "the one" "mr. right". Some of us spend our whole lives looking for him.I for one am happy to have all of those wrapped in one as a man in my life.He dont have to be someone I sleep with,someone I eat dinner with,or even someone I have sex with.... Alls he has to be is someone I trust,love,adore and cant live without. Hmmmmmmmm..sound familar?

af_jester January 15 2009, 05:48:00 UTC

yes, it sounds familiar :)

as for that one... everyone (generally) puts a label on that shit but with everyone being so different how can you actually figure out that one...

personally i think too many place a whole shit-ton on appearance. They want the 'pretty' guys that turns every head... has the best car, or the fattest wallet.

you know that this is one topic i can go on and on about to no end and ultimately make no difference

shorty1012 January 15 2009, 05:14:17 UTC

And who wouldnt want the man at the END of the movie?

af_jester January 15 2009, 05:48:28 UTC

and yes... as for the husband, ultimately i would imagine that is what every woman wants. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that...

mistresselusiva January 20 2009, 20:40:06 UTC

"My theory is... it doesnt really matter WHO the guy is as long as he looks good to them. He can get the nicest, most respectful, greatest man and if he either doesnt look good enough, drive the best car, or have the fattest wallet... he is shit out of luck ( ... )

af_jester January 20 2009, 21:09:32 UTC

now im not by any means saying that all women fall into my theory. Im just speaking generally from my experiences. Granted i grew up in an area where that thrived.

I will say that MOST women say they want the nice guy, loyal, funny, smart... etc. I do however think its only a small percentage of those women who use that as a basis... but yes there needs to be the attraction... but the question is which is more important. Appearance can change relatively quickly and yet who a man is on the inside is generally who they wlil be period. But as i said.. i can only go by what ive witnessed towards me.

And yes... i get the positioning lol

We will see what comes of the future i guess.

mistresselusiva January 20 2009, 21:29:22 UTC

which is more important? attraction vs. personality? the age-old question... BOTH are equally important in my book...but to me, attraction doesn't come from looks alone...it comes from all that other stuff... but again, that could just be me.

you will do just fine, i'm sure.

af_jester January 20 2009, 21:32:01 UTC

and see... i agree... its so much more than just what they look like... but as a society whole... thats what they care for. They dont look at the rest... just what they want everyone to see that they have. Im sure there are many out there that look at the attraction to who a person is... they are all happily married lol.

I know that the day will come again where i will find someone... and until then... i have my dreams of Ms. Allison Munn LMAO!!!

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mistresselusiva January 20 2009, 20:46:17 UTC

i also meant to add...that women definitely do want that nice honest guy who would do anything for them...but we also want someone who turns us on/has an edge... that's what most women want, i think. and it's damn hard to find both those things in one man...the nice ones don't turn us on and the bad boys who do turn us on sexually are toxic for our self-esteem... it's ultimately finding the right combo...

and kudos for watching The Notebook for research purposes...I've not yet seen it.