Questions

[afro76]

Why I am so caught up in my past when my present is so good? Why is it impossible for me to walk away from anything without having endless regrets? Why do I remember everything about my past love affairs (real and imagined) when my current love story is ongoing? Why, after a year of therapy, am I no closer to answering any of these questions?

Comments

[queerbychoice]

Is it really desirable to forget things about your past love affairs just because you have a new one now? Remembering is generally considered a good thing. Endless regrets are not generally considered such a good thing, but remembering is.

[afro76]

You're right, of course. Sometimes I just get so mired in regrets that it's hard to remember the positives. Thanks for the affirmation.

[enchochada]

I think it's natural to think about things that have happened in the past. By reflecting on things we can learn about ourselves and our patterns and hopefully find newer, more constructive ways to deal with problems in the present and live our lives more fully. My experience of therapy is that it does sometimes pull all your emotional crap out of the cupboards and that it does take a while to work out which things you can dump, which things you can mend and which bits you can put away for future use. x

[afro76]

Thanks for the kind and understanding words. I guess I'm just tired of going over the same things over and over again...This too will pass...