I know how you feeliris2007July 8 2007, 19:58:25 UTC
I'm pretty new to this community too. I had an abortion in November and this month marks the due date. I am very sad at times because I really wanted to have a child but my boyfriend was against it. I did write about this and I don't know if you read my post. I encourage you too. I hope it helps. I had an abortion when I was 20 too and it was such a relief and I felt such guilt but it was the best thing for me to do. It's not that I don't think about it either. I'd have a 16 year old kid if I went through the pregnancy without complication. Anyway I hope we can keep in touch. It is good to talk about it. There is such shame involved with it but we are being responsible women. We are taking charge of our lives and making the best of what we have. I have decided to make a difference and while I didn't have a kid, I did become a big sister and I was finally placed with an 8 year old girl this month. I hope I can make a difference in her life and help her make smart choices too.
Re: I know how you feel4105253July 13 2007, 16:58:03 UTC
Thank you for your reply. It's nice to know that someone else out there understands.
Today marks one week since the procedure...still not sure how I feel. My job is working with young autistic kids and their siblings, and it's been really hard going to work and seeing them, knowing that in just a few years that could've been what my child would've been like.
Anyway, I don't have much time to finish this, but I really just wanted to say thank you.
I know what you're going through. I had an abortion three weeks ago. I was in almost the exact same situation. My feelings are a whirlwind and I feel as though I can't express them, or am not welcome to express them. *HUG* You're not alone.
it`s hard to know how you feel after an abortion. things get so messed up, you know? like when i laugh or something, all of a sudden i feel guilty. every child i see i think 'that could have been what my child would be like.' i work in early childhood education & see children all the time, & thinking so many things hurts. especially when nobody really knows what it`s like.
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I did write about this and I don't know if you read my post. I encourage you too. I hope it helps.
I had an abortion when I was 20 too and it was such a relief and I felt such guilt but it was the best thing for me to do. It's not that I don't think about it either. I'd have a 16 year old kid if I went through the pregnancy without complication.
Anyway I hope we can keep in touch. It is good to talk about it. There is such shame involved with it but we are being responsible women. We are taking charge of our lives and making the best of what we have.
I have decided to make a difference and while I didn't have a kid, I did become a big sister and I was finally placed with an 8 year old girl this month. I hope I can make a difference in her life and help her make smart choices too.
Anyway I could ramble all night.
Good luck,
Iris
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Today marks one week since the procedure...still not sure how I feel. My job is working with young autistic kids and their siblings, and it's been really hard going to work and seeing them, knowing that in just a few years that could've been what my child would've been like.
Anyway, I don't have much time to finish this, but I really just wanted to say thank you.
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things get so messed up, you know?
like when i laugh or something, all of a sudden i feel guilty.
every child i see i think 'that could have been what my child would be like.'
i work in early childhood education & see children all the time,
& thinking so many things hurts.
especially when nobody really knows what it`s like.
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