Comments | afterabortion: I'm not feeling it

think_shalom in afterabortion

I'm not feeling it

Oct 16, 2008 14:03

I hope this okay...

I haven’t had an abortion yet. I have an appointment at the termination clinic to have it done in 10 days time. I only found out I was pregnant two days ago, and based on my estimation, I am only 4 weeks along, hence the reason I have to wait 10 days (in my country, abortions before 5 weeks are illegal.)

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girlchild0aglow October 16 2008, 09:08:57 UTC

It took me about three months after my abortion to really feel anything about it, and then it hit hard. I spent my brief pregnancy feeling completely dead, emotionally. I didn't want to think about what was happening to me.

Reality may kick in for you at any time, or you may never really feel much about it other than relief when it's all over. Whatever happens, I suggest you get counseling at least a little. It really helps to talk to an impartial observer.

Good luck to you. I hope everything goes well. If you'd ever like to talk about anything, drop me a line on my journal:)

girlindenim October 22 2008, 03:04:19 UTC

Not sure. I found out I was pregnant on Saturday. I had an ultrasound on Monday... I am 5 weeks 2 days today. I am having the abortion on Friday and I am also totally numb. It's weird. I don't feel anything, I'm just scared of the surgery.

I know I'll probably break down soon though... I think. Maybe not? Who knows.

caricaneba15 October 23 2008, 06:43:06 UTC

Yeah,I'm going through this. It seems like no matter what..at one point or another, you will think about it and have feelings towards the abortion..maybe positive...but maybe negative. I felt the same way..even days after the abortion, I was completely numb... but now I find myself loving kids even more, and feeling drawn towards movies about babies etc etc. It seems like its just a natural instinct that we as humans have, we are just emotional beings so its completely normal.. but overall I would say it's a damn sad feeling...I dunno what I'm even saying anymore..every woman is different, but good luck with everything

bluedragonflye October 23 2008, 18:42:24 UTC

but I want to know when the reality kicks in?

I'm not sure what you mean by "reality". I do not and have not ever felt emotional about my abortion, and I do not think this indicates that I am not in contact with reality.

Everyone responds differently. I personally hope that you never break down about it, and don't think anyone is going to be able to tell you when or if it will happen, or why or why not.

canttakethesky0 October 23 2008, 21:47:28 UTC

This.

When my tests came back positive, I didn't cry or feel angry or sad. I didn't feel guilty for hiding it from anyone. I just called a clinic and scheduled a test and tried to keep from throwing up on the bus to work everyday.

After the abortion, I felt absolutely ELATED. I felt relieved, and normal and just....happy. It's been three months and I haven't had a breakdown or any sadness about the abortion.

The point is the same as the poster above said. Everyone will respond differently. It's ok to be happy after an abortion and have it be a positive experience. It's ok to feel neutrally about it, like it's just a thing that happened that wasn't good or bad. It's also ok to be sad.