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[nevrose]

Hi, my name is Deirdra. I'm 19. I had an abortion at the end of February and it really hasn't affected me until now. Well, I mean there was the initial shock and distress and everything, but afterwards, nothing really. Here's some backstory first

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[eyelid]

I feel a longing, a need. I know exactly what you mean. FWIW, that's probably not because of your abortion per se... that kind of feeling is usually a woman's body just deciding it's time to procreate. Most women get it at some point in their lives... that sudden, ongoing desire to have a baby. (not everyone, of course). For me, I wasn't feeling it at 22, when I had my abortion. but a few years later, it suddenly really kicked in, and I was like MUST HAVE BABY. One of the worst feelings in the world is when you really, really want a baby, and you can't have one (for whatever reason

[nevrose]

Thank you, the support alone makes me feel better. My fiance and I both want to have good jobs (so post-college) and a home of our own, maybe not owning a home or just renting a place, but somewhere we can call our own that has enough room for a third. It's what I want as much as what he wants, but I've got that "SCREW EVERYTHING, BABY NOW" feeling.

I so wanted to get a "I don't regret my abortion" shirt when I saw the signs. I still want to, but I have to break it gently to my friends first so I don't have any surprises or awkward moments when I wear the shirt.

[eyelid]

but I've got that "SCREW EVERYTHING, BABY NOW" feeling.

yep, I definitely know that feeling ;) It can make it really hard to focus on anything else. No matter how much you feel like you should.

I so wanted to get a "I don't regret my abortion" shirt when I saw the signs.

I've been meaning to get one of those myself. Isn't it sad that it's considered so controversial? That a woman should be able to step up and say "I had an abortion I don't regret" publicly? When 1 out of every 3 women in the US has one?

[honest_whisper]

I don't know much much this applies in your case but I feel that the fuss surrounding abortion conditions women to find it harder to cope afterwards. Every time I see a pregnant woman or someone with a young child I am jealous and think 'If only' but I have to remember that I had these same impractical and instinctive baby-longings before I ever had an abortion and that despite what people keep telling me, it isn't that I regret the abortion.

[eyelid]

you are 100% right, baby fever happens to most women at some point - abortion or no abortion.