How to make friends and influence people in Southern California

[aghrivaine]

I don't have many friends here in LA. Part of this is a natural by-product of getting married and having a kid - everyone knows that severely limited your social time. It's predictable, no big deal, and nothing to worry about. But above and beyond that, I just have trouble or get in trouble out here in a way I didn't back in Philly

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[eac]

For what it's worth, I have trouble with the conflict averse thing here in SF, too. I've just managed to assemble a group of friends -- mostly transplants -- who don't mind...

[aghrivaine]

P and I were talking about the transplant thing. But the weird thing is, it's universal even amongst the transplants. And in fact, P, a native many generations born, isn't either flaky or conflict-averse. So ...what the heck is the vector for transmitting this tendency? What, is it just in the water?

[eac]

I think it may be a mass coping mechanism to avoid conflict with people who are very different from you -- e.g. "Can't we all just get along?"

Also, there's the myth of the laid back Californian...maybe everyone is trying to live up to that?