Transgender name calling

[aiden_raccoon]

You'd think in the over 5 years I've been in the fandom and having known and still know many transgender people that I would know what pronoun to use, but it confuses me and no one has yet to answer my question

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[direwolf23]

I say go with, "The Anomaly."

[aiden_raccoon]

Niccccccce. lol

[joecifur]

I think "transgendered person" is what you want to say. Most of those other things seem kind of negative.

Do you mean if you're talking about someone who's transgendered, to someone "mundane" / who potentially wouldn't understand? I don't think you'd have to spend 20 minutes explaining unless you made a choice to try and educate them (which is excellent, but something else entirely) rather than them doing it on their own. Just be honest. So and so is transgendered. They prefer to be called by ____ or ____. Or So and so is transgendered and you don't know what they prefer to be called by.

If the issue comes up I just ask people privately what they want to be called if I don't pick it up through context. I've never had anyone offended by this since it shows you obviously care enough to ask. There's a lot to be said for just being straightforward and real with people, after all!

[aiden_raccoon]

Transgender person is ok. Though as per the rest of your explanation, I don't disregard, but I want to make sure you stay on point. I am not speaking on an individual bases. I am speaking on a shorthand slang bases to cover the entire community to another person who is not in the community. For example, instead of saying homosexual every time, the shorthand slang is "gay" and that is accepted and fine. The public is searching for a shorthand slang and every one that is put out there is rejected. Remember when being called queer was insulting? Now it is no longer insulting, but instead an identity. What changed? Why is queer no longer insulting. I personnally feel the same way about the word tranny. That is a shortened slang form of the word transgender that the entire public is familiar with and can relate to. It would loosely cover all forms of the trans words as well, like transvestite, transsexual, etc. As we know these are different thing but to the public they are not nor does anyone really care to learn

[joecifur]

Queer as you no doubt already know is no longer insulting to a lot of people because it is a reclaimed label, and like other formerly insulting words, slowly grows in use within a group as people make its negativity meaningless by voluntarily using it to describe themselves in conversation & academic studies. Queer is the only even vaguely acceptable word that covers "anything," gay or bisexual or gender-variant. It IS academically inclusive of gender-variant and trans___ if you choose to use it. YMMV though

[aiden_raccoon]

Its not actually directed toward anyone in particular. Its just that every mainstream news article I read that has something to do with transgender the popular mention is what I am talking about with transgender people getting called shemale or tranny or whatever by whomever it may be like a police spokesman or you know, just the 3rd party in the news story and is just seems that it is a common occurence and I don't feel that the 3rd party in the story means anything offensive by what they are saying. I get this sense that the general public needs one of these shorthand slang words I am speaking of or else this "tranny", "she-male" name calling will never end. That why I feel that, just like 'queer' for the gay community being taken back, another word that is currently offensive also needs to be taken back, like "tranny" for example. I don't mean it HAS to be that word but you understand what I mean. I just use that word as an example because I never thought it to mean something derogatory until a transgender told me that it was

[lupine52]

I tend to find hun works with more effeminate people. Its genderless so I don't have to deal with the he,she,shi trap of trying to be respectful.

[aiden_raccoon]

You're missing my point here. I am not speaking about talking to a transgender person directly, on an individual bases, but to a mundane person about a transgender. It is too much responsibility to expect the general public to know what sex each individual wants to be known as, especially when I know transgenders who decide to switch back and then switch again.

Homosexuals can be known as gay and queer without offense. These are also slang terms that used to be offensive but are no longer. If the general public is going to be more accepting then there must be an accepted shorthand slang term available.

[shishomiru04]

all you have to do when you are unsure of the persons gender is simply ask them what they would like to be referred to as.

[aiden_raccoon]

You know I don't mind, but again, I'm not speaking about an individual bases of conversation. I'm looking for a shorthand slang term. Homosexuals can also be known as gay or queer and that is fine. So what shorthand slang term IS accepted by transgenders. Surely there is one.

[shishomiru04]

transgendered person, or trans person for short is what I see used most commonly.