Not FriendsankhoriteDecember 12 2008, 17:05:18 UTC
I'm with Karine above: "Good lord, who put that last straw on the camel's back?"
*sigh* I'm sorry this is still happening to you. It's been eons since I heard "friend" used this way, even in the Midwest, even in non-urban families (except in obits, see below
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Re: Not FriendsaislingtheachDecember 12 2008, 18:33:34 UTC
I'm with Karine above: "Good lord, who put that last straw on the camel's back?"
A coworker with whom I was starting to build a friendship. Who seemed to be upfront about prejudices, but then backtracked and went into full denial and resistance mode even though I was going really mellow with her. It comes in a context of me having used a good deal of my patience throughout the years with several close ones. Dealing with strangers, I find, is far easier than dealing with people you love.
"Not That Kind of Partner, Professor."
In our case, it's not gender, it's age. I am older, and while an older man/younger woman combo is dead common in Washington, DC, the Land of the Trophy Wife, the reverse emphatically is not.
I never had to experience that, but I relate. Sexism really is not my thing and this reeks of it.
As a genealogist, "beloved friend" in obituaries makes me want to gnaw my keyboard. Was this person truly a beloved friend? Or were they a same-sex spouse and the grieving family or the overly-timid obit writer is too lily-
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I'm with Karine above: "Good lord, who put that last straw on the camel's back?"
*sigh* I'm sorry this is still happening to you. It's been eons since I heard "friend" used this way, even in the Midwest, even in non-urban families (except in obits, see below ( ... )
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A coworker with whom I was starting to build a friendship. Who seemed to be upfront about prejudices, but then backtracked and went into full denial and resistance mode even though I was going really mellow with her. It comes in a context of me having used a good deal of my patience throughout the years with several close ones. Dealing with strangers, I find, is far easier than dealing with people you love.
"Not That Kind of Partner, Professor."
In our case, it's not gender, it's age. I am older, and while an older man/younger woman combo is dead common in Washington, DC, the Land of the Trophy Wife, the reverse emphatically is not.
I never had to experience that, but I relate. Sexism really is not my thing and this reeks of it.
As a genealogist, "beloved friend" in obituaries makes me want to gnaw my keyboard. Was this person truly a beloved friend? Or were they a same-sex spouse and the grieving family or the overly-timid obit writer is too lily- ( ... )
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