You were Sandi before they were born and you'll still be Sandi after they move out. Those women who devote every minute of their lives to only their children are going to a mess when it's time for their kids to set out on their own. In fact, it may be hard for those kids to make it in the world because they won't have Mommy to do everything for them anymore. Just because you're a family doesn't mean you all have to be joined at the hip.
That said...I have to go get ready to do MY thing...without my family. :)
I don't think it's wrong to want your own identity at all. I adore my children and would do anything in the world for them but I still need a few minutes a day to be Jenn. I don't play with my kids all day long, I don't spend my entire day teaching them things and there's lots of women that would think that I'm not being a proper mother but I firmly believe that there are some women that are born to be mothers--they're just naturally maternal. I am not a naturally maternal woman. My nieces and nephews don't flock to me when I enter a room. You are not neglectful of your children, you don't abuse them and you love them very much. That's what makes a good mother.
I agree. Actually I've read about this a lot; it's very easy for single moms to fall into this. Derive all of their happiness from their kids, and at the time sometimes it can seem like the noble and right thing to do. I actively try NOT to do it. I do love my kids, no doubt.
you are only seeing the side that makes you think they are devoted to their kids and nothing else ;) Being a mom is a big aspect of your life but not the only thing that defines you. I love being a mom and I devote a lot of my time to my kids but I have other interests outside of being a mommy (like being a geek LOL). Don't ever feel bad because you don't want to be the mommy label 24/7. That's impossible to do anyways and keep your sanity!
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That said...I have to go get ready to do MY thing...without my family. :)
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