Ah, the joys of fuzzy ego boundaries. Rissa's family is similar.
It's kind of a catch-22. If you're emotionally detached from the people doing it, this kind of thing generally doesn't bother you. (Oh, look at them having arguments over dumb stuff. Amusing.) So judging by the fact that it bothers you, you care about her. Therefore it is not going to be easy for you to distance yourself.
In any case, I highly recommend the book The Dance of Anger. It talks about the dynamics of relationships where there's a lot of fighting (summary: Sometimes people like to fight because it's a way to be emotionally engaged. Other times, they just don't know how to stop) and how you, as a person who has been dragged in, can try to disrupt the cycle.
You're right about my caring about her; it would be hard to cut Tasha out of my life. The fact that I would also lose my niece Jessica and nephew Ben in the process doesn't help, either. I wish my family didn't have to be so difficult. o.o
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And of course I'm practical. That's what Skorpies are FOR.
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It's kind of a catch-22. If you're emotionally detached from the people doing it, this kind of thing generally doesn't bother you. (Oh, look at them having arguments over dumb stuff. Amusing.) So judging by the fact that it bothers you, you care about her. Therefore it is not going to be easy for you to distance yourself.
In any case, I highly recommend the book The Dance of Anger. It talks about the dynamics of relationships where there's a lot of fighting (summary: Sometimes people like to fight because it's a way to be emotionally engaged. Other times, they just don't know how to stop) and how you, as a person who has been dragged in, can try to disrupt the cycle.
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You're right about my caring about her; it would be hard to cut Tasha out of my life. The fact that I would also lose my niece Jessica and nephew Ben in the process doesn't help, either. I wish my family didn't have to be so difficult. o.o
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