Michael Absher is far too self-centered, and is trying to break out of his shell.

[albadore]

So here's the thing. I want to be able to relate with people more and not just dance around like a monkey in front of them. Don't get me wrong, I really like being a dancing monkey. Its the path I've chosen, and its good fun. But I find it hard to have a normal give and take with other people, and I crave that kind of contact. Its the

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[team_jessie]

You know what might work? Have a list of 5 questions you want to ask everybody. They could be anything, but they should be something that would get a conversation going (so avoid the yes/no questions) and since you're worried about being nosy, maybe they should be kind of on the light side.

Even go ahead and announce that you're going to ask them "Your five questions" for the purposes of getting a conversation going. It's quirky, sure, but I think it's also disarming and will get people to open up. Then you can open up too.

Given some of the dull "Nice weather, huh?" conversations I have on a daily basis, I would personally love it if someone did something creative like this. :)

[albadore]

Its actually not a bad idea, although I don't know if I'm cute enough to pull off announcing it. I could totally see you doing it, though. I think I'd be better off faking the spontaneity. ;o)

Would I be the annoying type?

[iceblink]

Once I know I am allowed to talk and that the person I am talking to doesn't mind listening.... OFF I GO.......

But, I have also told my friends, if I need to stop talking, just tell me in a nice way and I will be quiet. I don't mind nosey questions in general. The 5 question idea is a good one and keeping it light is a bright idea.

So, what do you wanna know?

Re: Would I be the annoying type?

[albadore]

See. but doing this kind of thing online isn't my problem. I can come up with all kind of things to say because I'm seperate from the situation at least in terms of time and space (thats one heck of an "at least," isn't it?). In a situation where I'm face to face with a person, I can't think of a bloody thing to ask. So maybe having a set of standard questions isn't that bad of an idea!

[albadore]

Some people it comes more easily with...I've always felt pretty comfy with you, Christakis, but I think that says more about your welcoming and open spirit than about me.

[greekchris]

why thank you. but you make it easy too, with your welcoming spirit as well. Give yourself more credit, your awesome as a DJ and as a person. Anyone that can't see that after conversing with you for a minute or two, isn't worth your time!

[greekchris]

I don't believe I have ever had a problem conversing with you, although time always seems to work against us.

If your conversations with me in the past are any indicator to your conversational skills, I wouldn't worry my friend. Your doing good.

Perhaps your over thinking it!

[albadore]

Love you too babe. You are an exception, as you're very gregarious, and the conversation rarely gets a chance to flag with you.