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[albiongirl]

Part the First: Food.I made a casserole. Casseroles are satisfying not only because you have to do very little to make them taste good, but also because they are warm and hearty and best served with wedges of bread and butter. I don't have any wedges of bread, but the principle holds nevertheless

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[kated85]

This is the first time I have posted on here for months, but I think you raise a very interesting question. I think sometimes in life you do have to make an "assertive" I would say, rather than "aggressive" move. Think how many relationships (romantic or otherwise) would never have got off the ground if one person hadn't shown persistence. I think actual stalking, probably not so good, but going to an effort to befriend someone because you think they're great and will enrich your life, and you theirs, is a very admirable thing. Obviously if they disagree, then you have to stop because that is stalking and would be creepy. But even then, at least you've tried and won't be living forever in the land of "what ifs". I truly believe in taking opportunities and making your own luck so to speak. Waiting for everything to fall into place around you a) leaves you powerless and b) is kinda a bit presumptuous when you think about it

[white_city_girl]

I agree with Kate, I think you have to do it. Funnily enough, I think it's harder to be assertive for a friendship rather than a romantic relationship - if it's a romantic thing, you can just come out and say "I like you - do you like me?" and the answer is generally either yes or no (and if it's I don't know, that means no). But friendships are harder. I was going to say that there were a bunch of people I regret not making more of an effort with, but come to think of it, there's really only one. Maybe what I think is some version of if it's meant to happen, it will happen, and if it doesn't, it wasn't. But I still think there's a lot to be said for putting yourself out on the line, even if all that happens is you fall over. Being brave makes you feel good.

[white_city_girl]

Reading what I just wrote and what Kate did, I don't think I mean that about things being meant to happen in a sit back and wait kind of way. Just that sometimes I've found that some of the people I really wanted to be friends with and never quite made it, I end up realizing that those people weren't really the ones I was supposed to be friends with. The ones who I put myself out there for and who took me up on it, those are the real friends. And they're all still my friends now.