Social phobia...

[alexis_laforge]

Social phobia... I has it. I don't wants it :( This THING that happens to me, whenever I get around people, makes it almost impossible for me to interact in meaningful ways. I can barely make phone calls--whatever anybody might be doing is far more important than talking to me, after all--and I find myself wishing, in public, that I could just

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[razycrandomgirl]

Phew!

Maybe the nicer weather well help, But I think you should just enjoy yourself and your freedom. no pressure to "get back out there" or jump into something right away. Who says we have to be with anyone?

I've been going out in the nice weather and sitting in a nice place where people go to walk their dogs. I read a book. I smile and nod if/when someone walks by. If they talk to me I try to keep up (small talk is a bummer).

*hugs*

[alexis_laforge]

Thanks for the support, at least! I don't know if you know quite how much that means, but it really does mean a lot.

I guess it's a lot of things... I'm graduating from college, now, too, and had planned to do ONE thing, but now am being forced by circumstances back into something else, and the whole thing is just kinda stressful. Mostly I'm just going to try to enjoy myself for the next little bit, like you say :)

[dreamingahead]

Mmm... feels familiar on some levels. I think the trick is to say "yes" to going somewhere/doing something even when you want to say "no" with every fiber of your being - due to being scared, unsure of the outcome, etc. You never know what happens unless you try, right? I know that trying something despite being scared like hell has paid off for me on quite a few occasions. Brace yourself. :)

[alexis_laforge]

Ah, thanks for the support. Like I said to rcg above me it really, really means a lot! I did a big thing by NOT chickening out and filling out the graduate school applications--three so far--that I needed to :)

[truly_bohemian]

I'm so sorry that you've been having a bad time with the social phobia... I wish I could give you some advice, but you know that I'm not qualified to give it! I don't think you should get back together with the Girl just for the sake of being with someone. You have to weigh up the good points and bad points of being together before you even consider that. Most of all, you shouldn't worry that you're not going to find anyone else. You're a very sweet, charming, clever, kind person as far as I've ever been able to tell. People automatically worry that they're going to be alone forever when a relationship breaks up. But how often is that the case? Falling in love seems like a million to one chance but it happens repeatedly in life. I think you just have to be patient. :3

[alexis_laforge]

Ah, thank you... as I always do I appreciate your kind words and support so much! You, also, are one of the loveliest people I know. I'm feeling somewhat better about things, now, mostly because I have new projects to deal with (applying to graduate school, getting all that in order) and that's keeping my mind busy. It's so easy to think that someone is going to be the only one, or the last one, like you said, especially when you're not particularly great at being around people. I am a firm believer, though, that if you do right and take care of your stuff--like I'm going to do with my schoolwork going forward in the long quest to having a good job and academic tenure--then things will work out, so, maybe that'll be true ^_^