The funny part is that I think you missed out on not looking for love. It's great that you have it but if you never looked then don't you think you made someone else work twice as hard trying to find you? If I remember correctly you didn't just wake up engaged though so I don't even know what you are talking about. Regardless, congrats on having it.
yeah, but neither of us expected italigatorclawsJuly 10 2003, 15:58:38 UTC
we didn't even know to plan for it. It just happenned. It wasn't like one of us was pursuing the other or trying to prove how much we loved each other. It just came about really slowly. Obviously, I don't think that this will or should happen with everybody, but I just don't think it necessary for people to whip our their checklist everytime they run into someone hot at the grocery store.
A checklist, huh? Happened in spite of your own inability to know what was good for you, huh? So I guess you were slamming the door in his face and refusing to change, huh. Or am I mistaken? I seem to recall you eating a lot of vegan meals but that could have spontaneously been you deciding to eat healthier, right? I could be wrong but it sounds like something of an effort to me.
but it wasn't like I was forcing something unwillingly, or even trying to do something because I thought it would make me more attractive to him. I did it because I wanted to. I did it because it seemed a natural thing to do.
I never felt that I had to do something for him to make me appear attractive to him, and I never felt like I had to make him want me or pursue me.
I didn't really draw the distinction between changing because you want to impress someone and changing because you love someone. I guess that's an interesting observation you made. If you think about it, I have changed so much since I met lorenzo, but I never remember thinking, "Oh, I must change because I need a relationship and he's the guy to fill it
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I never felt that I had to do something for him to make me appear attractive to him, and I never felt like I had to make him want me or pursue me.
I didn't really draw the distinction between changing because you want to impress someone and changing because you love someone. I guess that's an interesting observation you made. If you think about it, I have changed so much since I met lorenzo, but I never remember thinking, "Oh, I must change because I need a relationship and he's the guy to fill it ( ... )
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