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[alithio]

I'm only going to say this once:

Yes, we broke up again. Yes, I know you love me--that does not make it either your right or your responsibility to send nasty e-mails, leave nasty comments, think mean thoughts, or tell him (or me) what a jackass you think he is. Okay?

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[effervesce]

I understand your point of view, and I've been there and back and got the t-shirt several times over, but you need to try to understand everyone else's perspective. You can't say, "it is not acceptable for people who love me to be angry at someone who hurt me." You may not think he's a jackass, and that's your right, but you don't really have the right to dictate others' feelings and actions on the matter. It may not seem fair, but when you involve other people in the situation by telling them about it, you open yourself up to their opinions and personal feelings-- which you may very well not like.

[alithio]

On the contrary, there are still only three people besides him and I who actually know what happened between us last weekend, which means that anyone else who feels they have the authority to comment on it is at best misinformed and at worst totally arrogant. Also, confiding in someone is not the same as involving them in the situation. Confiding implies confidence which implies trust, which, especially in cases of emotional vulnerability implies trusting the person *not* to put their own feelings first, even if they disagree with everything you think or feel. It may not seem fair, but sometimes the moral center of the universe is not in fact your individual feelings.