If you analyze the messages behind the literature, art, song, cinema, and prose dealing with love, society sends a schitzophrenic message about how to deal with it
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Are you willing to place your trust in him again? Is he willing to work hard and realizes you're not going to automatically trust over night...and there may be some bumps in the road until that is regained? I've been in that boat..and I did stick it out...as I was truly in love with the guy!
Hi Allterrain. We haven't met, but since you've tossed this question out there...
I'm not directly experienced with the situation you describe (the cheating part), but I did have a relationship end over dishonesty, my other half's with me. Once I got through the big shock part (can't remember now if that took weeks or months) and could think again, I had to ask myself "should I take him back?" I really had to let this one perk a while. I eventually came to the conclusion 'No'. Why? Because I finally realized who he was, and that if he could fool me once and leave me to suffer that pain, then he could do it again.
No, thank you. I'll share myself with someone who wants me AND respects me.
If you think your previous other half doesn't understand where you're coming from and/or doesn't care, and has no motivation to reel in his behavior, the choice here is obvious.
PS -- Again, not being acquainted, I don't know your DQ (drama quotient). I'll assume it's not high since you haven't already taken him back.
I'll kick you ass Trebeck...smaugerApril 26 2006, 02:29:44 UTC
sorry and SNL moment...
Thank you for all the kind things you said about us.
You know me and know the situation I was in before I met you, therefore you also know from where I speak.
It is very difficult for someone to change their spots. If someone cheated on you this soon into a relationship, then the chance are 99.9% they will do it again. The question is, can you go forward with a relationship knowing that fact??
Once you loose the trust in a relationship, then it is nearly impossible to get it back.
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I'm not directly experienced with the situation you describe (the cheating part), but I did have a relationship end over dishonesty, my other half's with me. Once I got through the big shock part (can't remember now if that took weeks or months) and could think again, I had to ask myself "should I take him back?" I really had to let this one perk a while. I eventually came to the conclusion 'No'. Why? Because I finally realized who he was, and that if he could fool me once and leave me to suffer that pain, then he could do it again.
No, thank you. I'll share myself with someone who wants me AND respects me.
If you think your previous other half doesn't understand where you're coming from and/or doesn't care, and has no motivation to reel in his behavior, the choice here is obvious.
PS -- Again, not being acquainted, I don't know your DQ (drama quotient). I'll assume it's not high since you haven't already taken him back.
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Thank you for all the kind things you said about us.
You know me and know the situation I was in before I met you, therefore you also know from where I speak.
It is very difficult for someone to change their spots. If someone cheated on you this soon into a relationship, then the chance are 99.9% they will do it again. The question is, can you go forward with a relationship knowing that fact??
Once you loose the trust in a relationship, then it is nearly impossible to get it back.
{{{{smauger hug}}}}
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