momentous item the second
i don't talk about it a lot, but nor do i make a secret of it. i have three children by first marriage.
the reason i don't talk about it is that those children are not part of my life. this is not by my choice.
the last time i saw them was in November 1993.
since then, partially be design, partially by circumstance, my ex has kept out of contact. and on the few occasions that she did have contact (phone or email) with me, she was not willing to discuss my being able to even talk to the kids.
i really don't know why that is, other than to say that she has control issues.
anyhoo, over the last 16 years i've tried at various times to locate/make contact.
which brings us to December 10th. i was getting together with Jodi for a pint at the pub*.
during our varied conversation, she tells me that she has stumbled upon** an online profile of my youngest child.
Jodi is of course well aware of my ongoing search and how much this news would mean to me.
she gave me the details of what she had found and from that i sent an initial email to my son.
and from there, it didn't take me long to find to find my two daughters as well.
it has been a whole jumble of experiences in the last week. the three of them all have separate lives (the youngest of them will turn 18 next month) but are in contact with each other.
so i've been having 3 parallel conversations. just starting to get to know who each one of them now is, and give them the opportunity to know who i am, and exchange bits of our respective histories.
now i'm on holiday which means i have very very limited internet access… which is giving me a bit of time to actually write this out. in the week prior to being on holiday, if i was at a computer i was either working or exchanging messages with one or more of my children. it's been a whirlwind.
*which also served as an opportunity to discuss momentous item the first
**later i will need to get more detail on how exactly this happened. but at that moment i was just too excited about the news to think to ask such question.
the reason i don't talk about it is that those children are not part of my life. this is not by my choice.
the last time i saw them was in November 1993.
since then, partially be design, partially by circumstance, my ex has kept out of contact. and on the few occasions that she did have contact (phone or email) with me, she was not willing to discuss my being able to even talk to the kids.
i really don't know why that is, other than to say that she has control issues.
anyhoo, over the last 16 years i've tried at various times to locate/make contact.
which brings us to December 10th. i was getting together with Jodi for a pint at the pub*.
during our varied conversation, she tells me that she has stumbled upon** an online profile of my youngest child.
Jodi is of course well aware of my ongoing search and how much this news would mean to me.
she gave me the details of what she had found and from that i sent an initial email to my son.
and from there, it didn't take me long to find to find my two daughters as well.
it has been a whole jumble of experiences in the last week. the three of them all have separate lives (the youngest of them will turn 18 next month) but are in contact with each other.
so i've been having 3 parallel conversations. just starting to get to know who each one of them now is, and give them the opportunity to know who i am, and exchange bits of our respective histories.
now i'm on holiday which means i have very very limited internet access… which is giving me a bit of time to actually write this out. in the week prior to being on holiday, if i was at a computer i was either working or exchanging messages with one or more of my children. it's been a whirlwind.
*which also served as an opportunity to discuss momentous item the first
**later i will need to get more detail on how exactly this happened. but at that moment i was just too excited about the news to think to ask such question.