intimacy

[almatheawaves]

I am feeling better today. My mood has slightly lifted. I've been trying to figure out what intimacy is, or rather what people think it is. I've been getting some interesting answers from different people. It's a strange word that can encompass so many other principles. Do you have to trust someone to be intimate with them? Are there any

Comments

[windinleaves]

intimacy, hmmm. Goes deeper than sex. I think it is deep understanding. when you are so in synch with another person that you can call them in your head and they will find you somehow. trust is implied, but i think intimacy can take place without trust. that is a scary sort of intimacy and that is when one can probably feel vulnerable in an intimate relationship. You want to believe that the other in the relationship will not use his or her understanding of you to intentionally inflict harm.....And that leaves the unintentional harm to explain. Sometimes intimacy is too intense and is put in the back of the mind.

eating, sleeping in another's company comfortably are intimate acts. so is in synch cooking. and gardening. brushing hair without exchange of money. foot massages(same as hair brushing). lots of things i guess can be intimate acts.

[wistfuljen]

I don't have to trust someone to be intimate with them (and no, I am not just talking about sex). But I will feel sort of ashamed and guilty at times if there was no trust there and I was intimate anyway.

I think I am just afraid to show myself to people most of the time, both physically and emotionally. So when I let go and do that, it is so foreign that it feels wrong.

Sometimes it turns out well, though. Like when I met you. Those emails we sent when we first met, every day for the first what, six months at least? Right off the bat I felt comfortable to share intimate weird things with you, and I haven't regretted anything about it at all.

intimacy....

[girlielit]

...is showing someone your soul. My first reaction is of course one has to trust another to be intimate, but then I think that's not quite right. When you sing in front of people or showing them your art, you are showing htem parts of your soul. You don't know all of those people, so how can you trust them? You could be like the chippie in "A Streetcar Named Desire" (Yes, I know major titles get underlined or italicized, but I don't have that option here) and depend on the kindness of strangers, but that's still not trust.

I'm on jury duty and blathering.