TL;DR

[alnora]

While everybody is gone I should explain what the dilliyo is happening around here and why I haven't been as active lately. And you, the anonymous interneting public are the only people I can tell; you'll see why soon

Comments

[ext_68953]

Why don't you speak with your grandmother yourself? Just tell her that you're worried about your mom and have had enough. Did she know about the time you'd spent in a motel? Sounds like it's probably time to pick up the phone and play mom for awhile.

[alnora]

I'm so nervous. I don't know what mom or Dave will do. I've been mentioning to mom that I want to see her, which I do since I kind of owe her. If I do anything, I want to do it in person where I'll be a little more safe than doing it here where the walls have ears.

She knows nothing. She doesn't know Dave was in prison, she's been told to believe he's a great person, that his daughter still lives here and everybody gets along great and happiness forever yay yay. I also have a job and an active social life. My cousin is probably going to help me burst this sunshine bubble. I need a little support. It's pretty serious.

[ext_68953]

Cousins are good. Family in general is good, and I recommend you enlist as much of yours as you can.

If your mom's been lying about this stuff for years and instructing you to back her up, that should make it clear to most anyone you tell that your mom is trapped in some sort of cycle of abuse and needs outside intervention to escape it... a place to stay, help moving out, and someone to make the decision to leave on her behalf, since she hasn't been able to do it on her own.

I'm really happy to see you talking more seriously about actually leaving, even if your mom won't follow. You've sounded really unhappy for a long time.

[alnora]

As strange as it sounds, Gena and I have come to the conclusion that she really doesn't want to leave. Apparently the situation has never been dire enough to warrant us leaving. Or perhaps she's afraid Dave is her last chance, as I've been told. She's getting older, 50 now, so maybe she thinks Dave is it. That doesn't make sense to us, but maybe it does for her. So no matter how much I cry to her saying I'd rather be dead than live another day here, so won't leave NOR help me leave. It took the kindness of a friend hundreds of miles away with her own life and problems and an upcoming wedding to help me out. Come on.

[den_of_misery]

What a fucking creep...A couple more weeks! He better not touch you...just avoid him like the plague he is.

[alnora]

It's hard to avoid him because he never leaves the house like me, but I'll try my hardest to make it easy as possible. I need some boxes... My procrastinating ass needs to starts packing NOW.

[den_of_misery]

garbage bags work great for clothes...

[alnora]

That's what we used when we got kicked out. Not that I have many clothes left. I just gotta break it to mom eventually that I don't plan on coming back. Fun times.

[thatjamiegirl]

[vicechan]

Yes. Run away and never come back. I'm proud of you and I'm happy you're getting out of there. I can't express it with words! Cheering you on like mad. <3 Much love to Catherine for helping you, too. Best of luck, dear, really!