Time Mix-up with Melanie

[alobar]

        I had been thinking of writing to Melane for the past several das.  I feel that my freak-outs, stress, and stupidities around my forced move last April may have nsulted er or hrt er feelngs and I wanted to apologize. Bt I was at a loss for words as to how to write the e-mail

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[sheilagh]

some people (particularly upbeat, nice/kind people) will maintain a happy demeanor, even if they ARE hurt. and since they're going to that effort to keep things nice for themselves & everyone else, they tend to *really* appreciate a quiet word, when no one else is around to make a fuss, a quiet word that makes double-sure that they're really as ok as they appear to be. like, these nice people make it VERY easy to apologize to them, and for that apology to be taken well, and to make the friendship that much stronger.

the trick is to get up the gumption to basically something like "hey, just wanted to make sure I didn't hurt your feelings a few months ago..." the bonus is that while she may say oh, no, no problem, that she may still just be maintaining the kind exterior, while secretly internalizing and appreciating the apology, like, it still matters, but from the nice person's perspective, no one had to be "ugly" about being hurt or demanding apologies.

[alobar]

In h e-mail I set Melanie on Friday I said
"I feel I owe you an apology. I was not very kind to anyone during that time. My forced move had me flipping out constantly. Kelleigh was not talking to me for months after she helped me move to give herself a break from my madness. ;) "

Which hopefully will help smoothe things out between us.

[sheilagh]

perfect!

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