I used to get this a few times when I first moved to Oakland. But after a while it stopped. I figured I must look like I belong there or something. I look like I know what I'm doing or whatever.
And well most of the time I walk around with a 'don't fuck with me' look on my face. :P
Ugh, what a creepazoid....I don't know what you need to do... though I have a pepper spray canister that maybe you could use more than I could, lol. Gosh, what is it that makes you such a magnet...*ponders*
Yep, been there, done that...far too often, and also for what bus is coming/when-where I cannot escape because I need to catch that bus.
For times when the cell phone just isn't there, make notes on the vehicle and be obvious about it. Most of them will leave if you start peering at them or their license plate and are scrabbling in the purse/backpack for paper and pen.
This is usually where I use a badge name too, or use my friend's names/characters in vain--"Thanks, but my boyfriend REALLY doesn't like it if I do that and he's expecting me right now"
Or the humor answer "sorry, I don't take rides from anyone who's not been checked out by my roommates/parents/best friend" *brief pause* "Did you know that file clerks can find the most INTERESTING information on people?
I try for the humor and light brush off whenever possible, but have been known to look for or threaten to carry rocks, mace or a really big stick.
I think Im going to get myself some mace or pepper spray. When this happened several times in high school my boyfriend was dead set on getting me some, but carrying it at school was an expellable offense, but now there whould be no issue so its about time I do so.
I had a convo with the salespeople at Victoria's secret and they say that their solution to the problem is to just flat out say that they keep notes on all aberrant stalkers and that they have files with the police. I guess this is a different situation though
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I would call the police, but I always seem to forget to get a lisence play number. I really need to remember to make a show of writing down their lisence plate number in the future. If the action doesnt scare them off in and of itself, it would at least help afterwards I get home so I can call the police.
I think you're right. What it comes down to is that I just need to learn to be mean if Im alone. I was just raised to be polite in any situation and thats a hard habit to break.
I think I have been getting better at noticing signs, I just have too much faith in people to expect this every time someone stops to ask for directions. I really ought to learn better given my track record. This has happened about 12 times that I can think of in the last 5 years. I think I will try laughing next time. I suppose it would show them that there is absolutly no way they are getting me into that car without using physical force.
I suppose it would show them that there is absolutly no way they are getting me into that car without using physical force.
I don't think that's a good idea to suggest, either.
You want them to think that it's not worth it to pursue you any further.
But look on the bright side: once you age and "the sag" sets in, you'll be mostly ignored (like what most girls experience when they try to say something important to men).
Always expect trouble. (be aware of your environment, evaluate everything as a possible threat)
Have a plan. (know your escape routes, be prepared to run and scream)
Have a backup plan. (pepper spray/knife)
It disturbs me that in this day and age that women are still mistreated and abused, and have to fear predators like this. I'd suggest using an equalizer (135 grain .38 special), but unfortunately discussion of that sort is taboo in the state of California, which apparently prefers unarmed victims and lots of lawsuits.
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And well most of the time I walk around with a 'don't fuck with me' look on my face. :P
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Yep, been there, done that...far too often, and also for what bus is coming/when-where I cannot escape because I need to catch that bus.
For times when the cell phone just isn't there, make notes on the vehicle and be obvious about it. Most of them will leave if you start peering at them or their license plate and are scrabbling in the purse/backpack for paper and pen.
This is usually where I use a badge name too, or use my friend's names/characters in vain--"Thanks, but my boyfriend REALLY doesn't like it if I do that and he's expecting me right now"
Or the humor answer "sorry, I don't take rides from anyone who's not been checked out by my roommates/parents/best friend" *brief pause* "Did you know that file clerks can find the most INTERESTING information on people?
I try for the humor and light brush off whenever possible, but have been known to look for or threaten to carry rocks, mace or a really big stick.
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I think you're right. What it comes down to is that I just need to learn to be mean if Im alone. I was just raised to be polite in any situation and thats a hard habit to break.
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I don't think that's a good idea to suggest, either.
You want them to think that it's not worth it to pursue you any further.
But look on the bright side: once you age and "the sag" sets in, you'll be mostly ignored (like what most girls experience when they try to say something important to men).
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Have a plan. (know your escape routes, be prepared to run and scream)
Have a backup plan. (pepper spray/knife)
It disturbs me that in this day and age that women are still mistreated and abused, and have to fear predators like this. I'd suggest using an equalizer (135 grain .38 special), but unfortunately discussion of that sort is taboo in the state of California, which apparently prefers unarmed victims and lots of lawsuits.
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