This Was...Things....

[alto1988]

This was a conversation I had with an ex best friend. We're ex best friends due to growing apart, not a fight or anything. I want to preface by saying this girl is incredibly sweet and nice and she would never do anything vindictive or rude to me on purpose. Having said that, I found this bothersome and a little hurtful

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[outstare]

Okay when I first read what she asked I pull the "OH NO SHE DI'IN'T" face and then I read that she didn't mean it like that so much.

Anyway, I think it was pretty cruddy of her to come out and say it like that even if she didn't really mean it like that it still came out and yeah that's definitely going to hurt you.

The only time I can relate to this is when my friend saw my Gr. 8 teacher in a mall once and they were catching up a bit (we were in like Gr 10 at the time) and the teacher asked if I was 'still big' and then my friend said "yeah?" and the teacher acted kind of like "Oh poor dear"

Like bitch! You weren't my favourite teacher at all and I'll lose the fucking weight when I'm ready! Which is what I'm doing!

I also like your approach, the slow and mentally ready thing.
It's what I'm trying to do too, slowly change the way I feel about my body and I like it a lot more this way :)

[alto1988]

Yeah...I hate that fat hate is the only acceptable discrimination left. It's irritating.

I think I'm more bothered by her being concerned about my happiness via my weight. Like...weight automatically dictates happiness? Wtf? And my quality of life? That really fucking irritated me. Like I have a lesser life because I'm really fat? What the hell.

[outstare]

Yeah! I used to think that I would be happier if I were thinner and that thin girls get to have more fun. But they have the same sort problems I do, so does my friend Tito and he's a thin guy.

Happiness doesn't have to do with weight, it's all mindset. It's quite ignorant of people to assume that you're unhappy because you're fat. It's not the fucking end of the world, they need to stop acting like it is. When you're happy with you, that's what matters. Even though this has all been said before it's true.

[alto1988]

Yeah, I've realized that too. Or even if a "thin" person doesn't have the exact some problems as I do, they have different, some times worse problems.

Yeah its all been said before and it'll all be said again, until people actually get it. Thanks bb. :)

[princebalesom]

I understand completely. I've always been fat and happy, though lately my happiness is dwindling due to pain. I've been losing weight to see if that helps my knee problems any. It has, but actually working out, most of the cardio stuff ends up hurting me anyways, so I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't.

Do what you're best at, girl. Be yourself. Be happy. I know you can do it, I've seen it. I've got the pictures to prove it, too.

[alto1988]

Do you wear a brace when you work out?

[princebalesom]

I does not own a brace. I'd need two, though. Probably wouldn't help that much.