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maishoku August 24 2011, 14:13:32 UTC
I can relate a lot to you because my younger brother is exactly the same in terms of motivation of studying. Whenever I tell him something, he'll just shrug it off and ignore it. I think, her passion to be better has to come from inside herself, or ignited by people she respects/will listen to. But I think it would be good if you can have a heart-to-heart/serious talk with her and explain why you're telling her all these and that you're worried about her. Maybe that can help to change her mindset?

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amaskuponthesky August 24 2011, 14:31:30 UTC
Yes. But I don't know whether will she listen to me. Everytime I try to tell her to go study, she will get frustrated and get angry at me :( And because I'm two years younger than her, I have a feeling she won't listen to me. This happened before and because I didn't do much to help her, she ended up doing badly and had to repeat another year. Not only that, I'm also worried for myself because frankly speaking, I'm not doing that well either. So I think I have to ask my eldest sis to knock some sense into her. :/

Thank you for the help anyways! <3

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maishoku August 24 2011, 15:23:03 UTC
Yeah it's really difficult to convince siblings who don't want to listen. Is she really close to her friends by the way? Like if you have any way to talk to her friends to help motivate her to study, that might help too. Sometimes people tend to take their family members for granted with or without realizing because they will always be there for them, so at these age I think they'll end up listening to other people like their friends and such. ): Yeah or maybe you can have sisters meeting or something like that haha. I really hope things will work out for you and your sister! All the best :( School is difficulttt.

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amaskuponthesky August 26 2011, 15:31:28 UTC
Yeah! She's quite close to her friends. My eldest sis is already thinking of talking to her after I talked about it with her. We need to make sure that my sister make full use of the remaining time she is left with!

Thank you Nina ;__;

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beyondelement August 25 2011, 02:43:30 UTC
It's rather ironic that I was in this situation this entire summer, except I was in your sister's role; the only thing that I can tell you that might help is talk to her. Even if she brushes it off and ignores what you say, talk to her firmly and tell her the repercussions of not studying hard; she might yell at you in return or still ignore you, but. The only thing that got through to me is my older sister telling me the horrors of what not studying effectively would bring for the future.
Good luck with your studying, too! Showing your sister that you're willing to work hard may also help as well.

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amaskuponthesky August 26 2011, 15:33:10 UTC
Yes, but I kind of hate it when she does that to me. And I'm afraid that doing this will end of making her feel too stressed. :X Something like this happened before and she regretted not studying harder. So I really hope that she won't regret again.

Thank you! I will try my best :)

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taeminnie August 26 2011, 04:10:37 UTC
My brother is/was the exact same as your sister, so I understand. It's so frustrating being in the position where you want to help, to do whatever it takes to make them succeed and then realizing, there is nothing you can do. I think that while you need to talk to her and help motivate her, there is sometimes a point where they need to learn things for themselves. Of course, don't just sit around and say nothing, but you can say everything you want and it really is up to her to take the initiative. Just try your best, that's all you can do ♥

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amaskuponthesky August 26 2011, 15:35:22 UTC
I was hoping that she will learn after what she had went through last time but seems like she didn't. It really feels like she's taking things for granted again. Sometimes I do talk to her about her exams but she always say that she's worried which is hard to believe, looking at how not prepared she is every time she has her exams. :X

Thank you so much for the help ♥

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