Fuck YOU and the fucking horse you rode in on.

[ambie720]

What a fucking night. It really CAN'T get any worse.

Let me set this up:

I have a friend who I've known since I was 13 (Celeste). My younger brother has a friend he's known since kindergarden (Isaiah). We all grew up together, did everything together.  Celeste and Isaiah dated for several years before breaking up. The breakup was nasty for both.

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[mrsfisk]

This pulled me in at 'FUCK YOU and the horse you road in on'

M'kay, so yeah I JUST KNEW after you said ur bro was being friendly with her all hell was gonna break loose then what happens? A couple of paragraphs later BAM! lol Sounds like this guy is one of those control freaks. You are no longer his biggest competition ur brother is. I know it sounds crazy but that's how this weirdo see's it. Funny how people change huh? It happened with my cousin & her BFF.

[ambie720]

Yeah, My mom has been through her share of like this. I know the signs.... I just am so upset that Isaiah ended up turning out like this. He was raised better. He has no excuse. I have no idea how to begin to explain this to my brother. I'm trying to decide whether to say something to him or not.

I tell you, next time I see his scrawny ass, I'm going to kick it. I can take the little snot bag, He's a skinny dude. Lol.

Thanks :-)

[emerald_skies]

Eegads, what a mess O_o (I confess, I was hooked by the title too)

I can't really offer any useful advice or anything since I don't know the whole situation, but you have my sympathies and e-cookies nonetheless

[ambie720]

I just LOVE the word Eegads. <3 I use it all the time.

and thank you. I like the GIF. (what is it from?)

[emerald_skies]

The gif is from True Blood (one of my favorite shows :D)

[ambie720]

I KNEW I recognized the guy with the beard... :-)

I've only seen True Blood a handful of times, mostly because I'm weird about starting a show in the middle. *shrugs*

[dreamsofspike]

OMG honey this sounds bad D:

Isaiah sounds like he could seriously be a danger to your friend... that kind of control issues usually goes along with a propensity to physical/emotional abuse... I'd keep a careful eye on this situation because your friend deserves to have a life of her own, too, and it sounds as if he doesn't want that to happen... the fact that she actually *said* to you she was scared of what might happen if they don't work out, tells me she's been thinking about it, and might want out even now... :(

wow, hon, this sounds like such a mess... i'm sorry you and the people you love are going through this... *hugs*

[ambie720]

Thank you. When she said that in the diner, even jokingly, I got a chill down my spine. I don't believe she was serious, but a lot of the reasons they broke up when we were younger was because he didn't like it when guys hit on her.

It's just so strange, I've known this kid all my life. He's never been like this before, and now i've got a reason to worry. Celeste is a really close friend, and it's only a matter of time until things spiral out of control.

The whole point is, is he a real threat to his kid as well?

[dreamsofspike]

it sounds like he's all about control over celeste... and he's got some major jealousy when *anyone* (not just guys) gets more of her attention than he does...

so... when this new little person comes along who requires *lots* of her attention... D:

yeah... i'm worried :-S

[theonlymeyouget]

Isaiah is a textbook emotional abuser, and Celeste is behaving like a textbook abuse victim

[ambie720]

Thank you. You've taken the words out of my mouth.

I watched my mom go through several of these relationships as well. I've been reading the signs rather easily since that first fight a couple months ago.

I'm hoping she works a way out of this on her own. I'd hate to see her get hurt, or for the situation to get so out of hand it has to involve police and courts you know?

(Also VERY sorry to hear you went through this crap so much. It sucks. :-/)

[theonlymeyouget]

In answer to your above question, he may not pose a physical danger to his child, but he will probably prove an emotional one. He'll likely wrap his identity up in his child, smothering and controlling to the point where he sees the child as an extension of himself and call it "love". He'll perceive any outside interests the child has, or any outside relationships as abandonment and will react accordingly.

Alternately, he might ignore his child completely if he doesn't provide him with the attention he craves. If the child isn't a good enough source of supply, it will be unceremoniously discarded without a second glance.

Either way, I'd hate to say, it won't end well unless Isaiah gets some help. It really is sad that the kids of people like this are the real victims.

[singingrain5]

Holy hell, that is a mess. Isaiah is a controlling ass, and your friend needs to tell him to STFU or she needs to get out now. I mean, that kind of thing....it just ain't HEALTHY.