But one would think - since you have to stay in the cave and not get eaten by the wolly mammoth - that you would tend to be nicer - or more tolerant of people. Thereby making things easier.
I don't agree with the genetics part. I am more of a nurture in the argument. I think your parents teach you to see things positively, or negatively. And you grow up in that chemical makeup - thinking that way. So it causes people to have therapy to stop doing what they have been taught.
I guess I'm in the nature camp for now...nurture definitly has it's power, but I know from Zander there are things about him I try to change but it's not going to happen - he was born with a personality, and all I can do is rough out the edges a bit. I also know some great adults who had fucked up parents.
I think we're still cave dwellers, but our caves are just nicer now. We still have the "fit in or die" instincts going hard...but now it's not if I break my leg I get left behind, it's if I don't fit in I get left out. I think that's why public speaking scares people more than death - it's in our genes not to put ourselves out like that.
So I think people do what it takes not to get booted out of the cave. We still live in tribes. And when you run into people who are just assholes, it's because you're not in their tribe, and we all live with the constant stress of pleasing our own tribe.
"But then why would someone make themselves to difficult to be around - by always complaining or yelling about something?"
I think some people only feel powerful this way - being blustery and bitching about things makes them feel active, and if they're not doing it, they'd be boring or complacent...it's just part of who they are, or how they've learned to get attention. So in that sense, it's really a move to stay with the tribe! Like the chest pounding gorilla that roars all the time is more fearsome and "respected" than the one eating bugs and hanging with the ladies...
I'm totally talking out of my ass, but it makes sense to me...
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really ever.
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Really.
I've given this alot of thought.
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I don't agree with the genetics part. I am more of a nurture in the argument. I think your parents teach you to see things positively, or negatively. And you grow up in that chemical makeup - thinking that way. So it causes people to have therapy to stop doing what they have been taught.
No pressure....
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I think we're still cave dwellers, but our caves are just nicer now. We still have the "fit in or die" instincts going hard...but now it's not if I break my leg I get left behind, it's if I don't fit in I get left out. I think that's why public speaking scares people more than death - it's in our genes not to put ourselves out like that.
So I think people do what it takes not to get booted out of the cave. We still live in tribes. And when you run into people who are just assholes, it's because you're not in their tribe, and we all live with the constant stress of pleasing our own tribe.
We're still very animaly. Genes are cool.
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I think some people only feel powerful this way - being blustery and bitching about things makes them feel active, and if they're not doing it, they'd be boring or complacent...it's just part of who they are, or how they've learned to get attention.
So in that sense, it's really a move to stay with the tribe!
Like the chest pounding gorilla that roars all the time is more fearsome and "respected" than the one eating bugs and hanging with the ladies...
I'm totally talking out of my ass, but it makes sense to me...
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So it's not really talking out your ass.
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