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[amishgirl418]

Most of you have heard bits and pieces about what is going on with my family. Martha ended up talking to my mom and got permission to send her work to Ocracoke. For the most part, that is good news, right? Yeah. Prima facie.

Martha called me to let me know where everything stood and to thank me for letting her know all of the information about the

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[hesterbyrde]

I would talk to her about it. Ask her how she wants you to be open and honest with her if she wants to put limits on what can be discussed. I'd give the caveat of, "This is the last time I'm going to bring it up unless you do, but-"

It probably will cause a meltdown, but it might be something your mom needs to hear. Granted, it coming from her daughter would be different from hearing it from someone not in her family but for some people that works better. It's still worth a try I think. I'd also do my best to keep from being interrupted so you can lay out the whole scenario in the 'You told me this but you also say this. What do you want?' way.

There is love!

[eeegi]

My first instinct is to give her a couple days of space. As you said this has been very hard on her and she has a lot of frustration toward Martha right now, let her be mad and irrational for a few days. Maybe then like Birdie says this will be the last time you bring it up unless she starts it but you want to be able to stay open with her and that means having to be able to be open about everything good and bad. But I'd leave her to her emotions for a few days, sometimes it's an important part of the healing process.

[jaralith]

I agree.

People say lots of things that aren't meant to stand when they're that hurt. Time will be good.