Just look at all the couples you view as successful. What qualities do you see they poses?
I can tell you right now that abusive relationships with longevity are not successful. Happiness is measured by the values and respect those two people share in that relationship. It's no joke when They say that the keys to a good, long lasting relationship is communication, trust, respect, and love. To think that just love is enough is naive and idealistic. Those values that I listed are the basic necessities to make any relationship work, not just romantic ones.
Is there a friendship that you cherish and are happy to be in? Or a relationship with a family member that you deeply value? You might find the answers you seek by looking there...
If I'm in an abusive relationship, I would say leaving it would be a success, even if it takes 2 years to accomplish...
If I date someone for 2 weeks, and during those two weeks we're both happy, I would call those 2 weeks a success, even if the overall relationship ends up failing.
I think overall, I'd take a brief, happy relationship over a long, 'meh' relationship.
Screw all that. You're responsible for your own happiness. If you enter into a relationship because the other party makes you feel better or happier, unless they're a saint, it will collapse at some point.
When both parties enter into the relationship because they truly care about each other, each works towards making a better situation for the other. When you're depending on someone else for your own happiness, what happens when they get sick, or disinterested, or work pulls them away? It happens to everyone. To be truly happy in a relationship, you need to be happy before the relationship.
Look to yourself, and find all the things that make you great. If you need pointers, catch me in person and I'll start listing reasons. A lot of them. Be happy with who you are, for what you are, and then you'll have the strength of mind to kick people to the curb who don't care enough about you to be worth your time.
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I can tell you right now that abusive relationships with longevity are not successful. Happiness is measured by the values and respect those two people share in that relationship. It's no joke when They say that the keys to a good, long lasting relationship is communication, trust, respect, and love. To think that just love is enough is naive and idealistic. Those values that I listed are the basic necessities to make any relationship work, not just romantic ones.
Is there a friendship that you cherish and are happy to be in? Or a relationship with a family member that you deeply value? You might find the answers you seek by looking there...
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If I date someone for 2 weeks, and during those two weeks we're both happy, I would call those 2 weeks a success, even if the overall relationship ends up failing.
I think overall, I'd take a brief, happy relationship over a long, 'meh' relationship.
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When both parties enter into the relationship because they truly care about each other, each works towards making a better situation for the other. When you're depending on someone else for your own happiness, what happens when they get sick, or disinterested, or work pulls them away? It happens to everyone. To be truly happy in a relationship, you need to be happy before the relationship.
Look to yourself, and find all the things that make you great. If you need pointers, catch me in person and I'll start listing reasons. A lot of them. Be happy with who you are, for what you are, and then you'll have the strength of mind to kick people to the curb who don't care enough about you to be worth your time.
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