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[amy_star_]

So I have been kind of quiet of late because I have been dealing with a lot of crap. The usual work crap, which is magnified due to labour cuts this holiday season. Some good - got a kitten, bought a lot of stuff so my house actually feels almost finished (missing a dining table - we have one, it's just a crappy one and I want a real one I can have

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[caffienekitty]

Oh my god that's horrific! D-:

[amy_star_]

It kind of is. People are dealing with it better than I thought they would though, and it is nice to know that other family is rallying around without complaint to help, especially since we've all been feeling distant lately.

[caffienekitty]

Well that's something, anyway. I hope that somehow, something good comes out of this and the family support remains after the immediate crisis.

I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. :-(

[amy_star_]

Mostly fury. At dad, at the whole situation, that I can't magically make it all better, that I'm across the country and I feel impotent right about now. Some sadness, mostly for Mom as my brother is pretty good at dealing with things and the magnitude of betrayal is not the same. Some grief for myself as I know that as of yesterday life will never be the same. On the whole people are coping better than I had thought so I am a little relieved.

[ruric]

I am so sorry this is all happening to you and yours right now

[amy_star_]

I had already thought of that, actually. I have something of a hoarder mentality (rather than working with me to get rid of old toys mom would send me off to someone's house for the weekend and purge my stuff, so I tend to be unnaturally attached to my things) and an act of God is the only way I would get rid of a lot of my things... but every once in a while I wish I could purge so much of the stuff I have without worrying about it. Looking at the videos of the micro-apartments for example... I could never do it because you *can't* have stuff, but sometimes I wonder about the simplicity, and the way it would help you live in the moment...

Mom said they got in today and she got out all the photo albums, and about half the stuff in the china closet, and they will be allowed back in on the weekend. Unfortunately, even though the way they split bill payments meant Dad was paying the rent Mom is still on the lease so she will be responsible for paying back $3500 plus whatever it costs for them to clean the place after they are out.

[ruric]

I could never do minimalist - I have too many books and way too much shiny jewellery. Post fire I've managed to acquire more things but I am working through a decluttering process again, this time under my own steam, and finding it much less stressful than in the past! I'm trying to get away from the Aladdin's cave approach of many pretty shiny things down to having a few select items to admire. It's taking time but I'm getting there *G*

I'm glad that your folks have managed to get some items out and can go back for more, that must be a huge relief. And I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the rental company will be flexible about helping your mum organise a sensible level of repayments. If I hit a big lottery win you'll be my first port of call!

[ficwriter1966]

I'm so sorry to hear that - it's a terrible betrayal. I hope you're able to retrieve the things that are important to you.

*hugs*

[amy_star_]

They have already gone back in and pulled out things like the photo albums, so there is that at least.

*hugs*

[amy_star_]

*clings*

Matt said today he only has his closet and anything downstairs in the front closets left to do. Mom got a good start on things in the 4 hours she was there today. My aunt took the day off with her and they started in a lot of rooms so I think they need 2 good, solid days of work still but the superintendent said they had at least the week and weekend, plus they are arranging a big bin for the garbage to go in at no charge. He also talked to mom privately and told her that even though she is on the lease and will have to pay back half of the money owing he would put in a good word for her if she wanted to rent an apartment through them, as he knows she was not responsible. That is something anyway. I just wish I could be there to help out.

[amy_star_]

yep. It's why I was so stressed out when I was home in October - we had a bit of an intervention that went nowhere. What kills me is mom kept saying at least he is still paying the rent, when apparently he was not. And it all happened so fast... I know that Jess's stepdad was hanging back out with Dad a lot back when I was home in May, and since he and Jess's mom split up a year or so ago he took up with my uncle's ex-wife (so weird and incestuous, but whatever) and Nic has a coke problem so bad it cost my uncle his house too. So I assume that is when all this started up. He was not behaving abnormally when I was home in the spring at all, and he stopped paying rent in July, so the timeline works.