Lack of congruence

[anahata56]

I posted this on my Facebook this morning--

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." - Mahatma Gandhi

And it explains a lot, because that is not what I have been doing, and it may be the key to why I am NOT so happy right at the moment...

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[bkwrrm_tx]

*hugs*

I wish I had wise words, but I don't. Just know that I'm here for you, and whenever you need a shoulder, I'll hold you up.

LY. MI.

[anahata56]

It would be so great if there was just one, all-knowing individual in the world who could tell me what to do. Who could give me a couple of answers. The doctors are being as helpful as they can be, but I'm thinking that they don't know any more than I do, and are as frustrated and baffled as I am.

I am not adverse to asking for help--asking isn't the problem. The problem is--who to ask?

[kestrels_nest]

And sometimes, in my experience, what to ask for. FWIW, *HUGS*

[anahata56]

I am very angry at her god right now. I am very angry at the people who worship him. I am very angry at Christians, because they all sit and pray--but they're SITTING, yanno? They do nothing. They don't even come to visit, or call my Dad.

The Christians around them are supremely useless, and have found it so easy to wash their hands of this that they have earned by unending contempt.

It is only MY beliefs that keep me from tearing them to shreds with my tongue.

[lolleeroberts]

Well, I don't follow it anymore, but the Christian tradition I grew up in taught that prayer without works was hollow - and this is why. The cardinal acts of mercy - feeding the hungry, sheltering the homeless, visiting the sick and the imprisoned, these are HOW Christians are supposed to bear witness to Jesus' message. (at least according to the catechism I studied.) People who talk the talk but don't walk the walk are the Pharisees that Jesus held in such contempt.

As for the conflicting messages - each one of those people sees one part of the elephant. Trying to get a coherent picture from their fragmentary reports is damn hard, as you've discovered. But surgeons really only care about their work. Incision clean and healing well? Fantastic. Patient dying but not because of surgery? Officially Not His Problem. The other doctor is probably focused more on the disease process than on the person it's happening to. Doesn't make him bad, just the way doctors function. The nurse is looking at your mother as a person, and how she's

[anahata56]

I wish you weren't so far away, too. And I do think you're right--but it even varies from nurse to nurse, mostly because of my mother's mental capacity at this point, which also varies. One minute, she has a moment of lucidity and cheerfulness, and the next she looks at her IV pole and sees a skeleton, which frightens and distresses her. But the nurses HAVE been able to give a more holistic report of what's happening--and I tend to rely on the internists reports more than the surgeon's, for the reasons you point out here

[ladyblue56]

*hugs*

[suzilem]

Hugs....and I'm also here ready to listen if you need me.

[madfedor]

Sending energy. Don't forget to breathe (and I don't mean just air).

[anahata56]

What is this "breathing" you speak of? ;-)

Thank you.