A rant type thing

[anakamwaystar]

I discovered yesterday that my extended family has a homophobia thing. An issue, or whatever. During dinner (we've been having Thanksgiving over there on Friday for the last few years when we can, it's quite nice), the issue of places to just generally shop inevitably arose between, I think, my eldest cousin and her sister-in-law. They're both

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[kailen]

This is maybe weird, but I read that and thought, "I so could have written that." A similar discussion happened at my family birthday part two weeks ago. A relative brought up this person who started at her work, and that the person is in the process of transitioning to female. My family is very opinionated about certain political issues, but this was the first time homosexuality and GLBT issues have come up. Everyone started making shocked noises and discussing how weird that was and wouldn't his (their pronoun, not mine) children be embarassed about that

[jb1234]

(And yeah, this is me coming out online to you and whoever reads this.)

Really? I never would have guessed...

While I think my family is largely supportive of me, I've never brought a guy home to test the theory. I know my mom would be okay but the rest of them? It's scary to think about. And then there's the people who don't know I'm gay, period (who are largely Mormon). There will come a point when I'll start dating and I sense turbulence in the future.

I wish you the best of luck when you come out to your family. It's very scary being out there in a world that seems openly hostile towards you but I've learned that it's far more important to accept and love yourself than it is to live a gigantic lie. Too bad it took me seven years to figure that out (and I'm still terrified half of the time).

[kailen]

Really? I never would have guessed...

:p

Thanks. It certainly took me long enough to admit it to myself and then accept myself. Don't want to keep hiding or holding myself back. It is scary though. I'm trying to figure out how to tell my best friend/roommate next semester. "Hi, I've known you for two and a half years, and we're pretty much inseperable, but I've been to scared to tell you, because I know you're kind of conservative." That'll be fun...

[jb1234]

Go fishing.

That's what I did with Ben so many years ago... I brought up the topic of gays and watched his reaction. Mind you, it's possible to do it with more subtlety than I bothered with. He guessed what I was doing right away. ;)

Of course, you couyld go right out and tell him/her that you're gay... but at least with the above approach, you'll have some warning.

[jb1234]

Josh will kill me if I say 'quirk' because it's got letters in common with 'queer'

Nah. We sinful homosexuals took over the word "queer" and use it with pride. ;) You can say queen, quirk, quail, queer. Whatever. ;)

I realize that it's human nature but it always fascinates me how Christians forget "thou shalt not judge" on a regular basis. Either way, it's none of their fucking business who I sleep with and they can shove their beliefs up their own asses.

[kailen]

Seconding that last paragraph. 'Tis part of why I'm rather disillusioned with the idea of the church right now.

[eviltree]

Does one disagreement with one part of the Christianity thing invalidates the entire belief?

Probably not.

You can still like the Jesus dude and God, but whatever.

If God does exist, when I die, he's got a lot of answering to my questions to do. ;)

[kailen]

I'm disillusioned with the church, not Christianity in general. Church being the organization and some of the people that go there. I've had issues with it for quite some time, not just the "people say they're Christian but don't act it" thing.

God will have many questions to answer for me too. :)

[lta]

My husband refuses to shop at W-M (unless absolutely necessary) because of the way our local one treated the butcher's union. They went on strike for better pay and W-M simply started buying prepackaged meat-and not very good meat at that-effectively getting rid of the butchers

[kailen]

the crappy way they treat their workers or their crappy customer service

That's why I try to boycott Walmart as much as possible. I've heard some pretty horrible things that go on there. :/

[lta]

They're probably true, too, unfortunately.