Savage Love

[analinguist]

Below is a letter from a column that Dan Savage recently ran. I thought it was pretty interesting and I'll explain why below

Comments

[evilbubbles]

i think that women who have boobs that huge are stupid and i think its just gross and not a turn on. i dont see how guys would like it...im afraid if i touch them they will bust :P i love big boobs but not that big geesh.

[analinguist]

That was kind of my point- that there is something repulsive, troubling and simultaneously erotic about someone going to such an extreme, misguided lengths to so publicly transform themselves into an object intended only for the sexual pleasure of others. Whether they are successful in making themselves desirable or not is almost beside the point.To sacrifice your body and your social standing in an attempt to gain sexual validation from others is a pretty extreme act of self-subjigation.

[neverdubious]

I agree. I think the most erotic thing about most pornography is the extremes these people will go to. I am not one who'd particularly want to participate in any of it, but I find it extremely arousing to see how self-depricating women can be, how low they will go, how little they can respect themselves. I try to imagine these women are the same women I see with shopping carts and the supermarket, or at some book store or getting into the mini-van with their kid outside the school or something, to think that these women can have such a dark side and would allow this to happen to themselves, and ENJOY it, is the most arousing thing about it often.

[analinguist]

Or not enjoy it, but choose to do it anyway. To me, that is the most arrousing scenario. That they're willing to subject themselves to borderline sexual assault for a few dollars and a misguided quest for external validation is extremely hot. It doesn't get more depraved than that.