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[andrea622]

duh first sorry i for some reason thought trace's bday was today but it's tomorrow. TODAY is my sad day. Today one year ago I did the most morally disgusting thing I've ever done but it still turned out to be the best decision for the situation. How is that possible? I sound wrong just saying that. All I know is I wish the whole thing never

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[traceylalala]

Well, for one things, you gotta erase the *anniversary* from your head. No sense in killing your emotions over it. You know you did what had to be done. End of story, sweetie.

I don't know what to tell you about your friend. On one hand, if you have absolutely no intentions of ever wanting to find love again, then it's up to you if you want to get into a loveless marriage. But you have to consider, if this guy loves you and cares about you, how long will it be before he's unhappy you can't give it back? Maybe you can give it back, with time... guys mature in time, and maybe all of his *weirdness* will go away? All i know, is i hate seeing you in all this pain. You have a lot of regrets and sorrows, and i don't want you to add to them. We women will do almost anything for our kids, even if it makes us unhappy, but i don't want to see you unhappy. Which you already are, way too much.

Do whatever you think will make you happy... whether it's happiness today, or next year...

I love you, and only want good things for you.

[smplea_blissful]

I completely agree with Tracey. I love you Andrea and I hope thing start picking up for you soon because you really deserve it. Sometimes the hardest things to do are whats best for us and I think you've seen that many times in your life. I wish I could do something to make your desicion easier.
Love Always,
Julie

[mariwhite]

I've seen a lot of marriages that start out being purely for convenience that turn into wonderful, passionate relationships. They say the best relationships start out as the best friendships. Like Tracey said though, you have to consider his feelings, and yours if that never happens and you never feel for him what he feels for you. Do you want to spend your life with a man who you're not in love with

[my_sweetpeas_xx]

I whole heartedly agree with *ALL* of the previous comments. *YOU* need to be happy to sweet heart. Friendships can turn into WONDERFUL realtionships..trust me, I know. And, the SSI thing is a *good* idea. There's no shame in it..I know several people on SSI/disability. I just hope everything works out for you babygurl..I love you & I hate seeing everything like this :-( *hugs* I'll take care of your babies :-)