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[andrew_tsks]

i haven't written in here in a while, but the reason is not because nothing has been happening in my life. what is really up is that nothing's been going on of note except for things with kat. yes, we broke up, and yes, i said a couple of weeks ago that while things had been changing back and forth a bunch, i figured they'd changed for the last

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[eller]

"if it's meant to be, it'll work out."

What that means, to me, is basically when setting out to do anything in life you should approach it from this point of view, 'if it's meant to be, it'll work out.'

because if you don't you are setting yourself up for failure thinking everything, just because you want it, or try hard, is going to turn out the way you expect.

It's just a way of thinking to help you understand to take things in life lightly, if everything doesn't end up a satisfactory way to you, there is no need for getting upset or hurt, or angry or sad... that's the way it was meant to be.

Some people can look at it as a lie... "Well, then NOTHING has to work out and you'll still be happy, that's bullshit!"

but that's the point.. why get upset about life? Shit happens....

I don't know if that made any sense.
-ella

[andrew_tsks]

no, it actually made a lot of sense. i guess now i see why people say it. haha thanks.

[starburstlvr]

You know - there are similarities in the way you and I think/handle situations and the way our respective exes do. It's quite freaky.

[andrew_tsks]

yeah? well right now it's feeling kinda like a bummer, so i can imagine what you're probably dealing with. i mean, i love her to death, and i'm not mad, but i just wish she'd let me know what was on her mind before she completely disappeared like this. sigh.

[starburstlvr]

Well for me and this ex - we're in this in between phase. I wrote him a letter on Valentine's Day and basically was told that although he doesn't have romantic feelings for me that I'm more than a best friend to him - he cares for me alot. So we're more than best friends but not lovers. But he also said he doesn't want a relationship right now.

Afterwards, we both agreed we're along for the ride - we'll see what time brings. But he too has that thing where he'll go quiet for a few days - usually when he's annoyed/upset and wants to think things through. And that drives me nuts. I want to deal with a problem then - I don't like letting things simmer.

They also say sometimes that love isn't enough. My ex and I continue to make an effort to work through any issues that come up, because we're the poster children for that whole Mars vs. Venus thing - so it takes some effort.

Ugh - the dating game - sucks.

[andrew_tsks]

sigh. yeah. i recognize a lot of that. oh well. "if it's meant to be, it'll work out", right?