Dear Livejournal, I have a story to tell you. It's all about my night last night. It might be boring and lame to start out with, but it gets good, or at least funny, later
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Sounds like an awesome night. You did well too, though if there were ever a moment to forget your insecurity and balls-up go for it, it sounds like the bottle-spinning might have been that moment. Then again, there were other people around and doing that kind of thing with them there might not have been the classiest move. Anyway, good luck man!
I hear you on maybe I should have kissed her at that moment, but as she said, she was the one who initiated the whole thing. I didn't really feel like I should be the one to kiss her. Maybe I was wrong, though. And yeah, with other people right across the table, it was kind of weird. I don't know, I really don't expect anything to come of it, it was just a vaguely awesome thing that happened. So really, the fact that anything positive happened was good.
Dood, the bottle spin was your opening. You should have just smashed her with a glasses-skewing, nose-breaking, moist lip-smashing kiss right there in front of your mutual friends - it would have been seen as an awesomely assertive and hilarious way to up the flirtation ante. Esp. with the alcohol flowing and the protracted flirting, you would have been totally within the realms of expected behavior.
ok, so you and jim have both said that, so you're probably right and i probably blew it. that sucks but oh well. it seemed like the kind of move that could potentially really blow things if i went for it, so i was trying to be more circumspect, and maybe this kind of thing just requires levels of bravado that i don't even have. sigh. whatever.
Well, my whole thing is always a primal fear of coming across as some sort of fratboy, "player," or womanizer, but sometimes you really have to shift into cromag mode, and that's ok. God knows men of our generation, especially those into the things we're into (like punk rock ideals and respecting women as fellow human beings) have a hard time with traditional masculinity and with taking the lead without feeling like a date-rapist.
It sounds like you still made a nice introduction, so you've planted some seeds. Good deal!
Like I said in that building confidence thread, sometimes you just have to make a face-plant to keep rolling and keep your confidence building. One time I hung out with a girl almost every day for a few weeks, including things like sitting "too close" to each other while watching movies and roasting marshmallows together in my fireplace. When I finally, after a gentlemanly eternity, decided to kiss her, she reacted with a full-on "what are you DOING!?" as though I had walked up to her at random on the street and
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hah, see, yeah, i didn't know whether i'd get that kind of reaction, and also, it felt like since she was spinning the bottle, she needed to pull the trigger on kissing ME. she definitely knew that i was down, and i think she ALMOST did it but then chickened out.
as far as what you're saying about masculine lead-taking vs. punk ideals, i'm ok with erring on the side of the latter. much more so than i'm ok with erring on the side of the former.
and hey, she may actually write back to the myspace message. i know she read it earlier today (myspace tells you that sort of thing), and didn't reply, and i'm cynical enough to immediately think "oh ok, it's not happening." but i mean, i could be wrong. i doubt it, but it's not impossible.
so yeah, at this point i did what i did, i'm ok with it, and if anything comes of it i'll be pleasantly surprised.
well, that's great to be so bold! sounds like a fun time. just be casual about it..or as casual as you can be :) of course, easier said than done.
i bought records todayyyy and decided to buy an external hard drive and just devote my life to downloading everything from every psych blog and being the female fucking MASTER of psych. i think this is much better than dating.
yeah, it sounds like it. i totally ordered an external hard drive two days ago that will be here on probably monday, if not then tuesday. it's 250 GB. i too am planning to raid psych blogs like crazy when it gets here.
i'm debating buying a membership to rapidshare because the whole waiting between downloads thing is so annoying...memberships are pretty damn cheap too in comparison how much music you are "acquiring."
personally, i'm way more into sitting through the waiting period than i am into paying for downloads. but that's just me.
the hard drive was only $69.99, with free shipping. it's a christmas special at newegg.com. you should check it out. they are NOT usually that cheap for that amount of storage.
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Oh, well. Baby steps!
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It sounds like you still made a nice introduction, so you've planted some seeds. Good deal!
Like I said in that building confidence thread, sometimes you just have to make a face-plant to keep rolling and keep your confidence building. One time I hung out with a girl almost every day for a few weeks, including things like sitting "too close" to each other while watching movies and roasting marshmallows together in my fireplace. When I finally, after a gentlemanly eternity, decided to kiss her, she reacted with a full-on "what are you DOING!?" as though I had walked up to her at random on the street and ( ... )
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as far as what you're saying about masculine lead-taking vs. punk ideals, i'm ok with erring on the side of the latter. much more so than i'm ok with erring on the side of the former.
and hey, she may actually write back to the myspace message. i know she read it earlier today (myspace tells you that sort of thing), and didn't reply, and i'm cynical enough to immediately think "oh ok, it's not happening." but i mean, i could be wrong. i doubt it, but it's not impossible.
so yeah, at this point i did what i did, i'm ok with it, and if anything comes of it i'll be pleasantly surprised.
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i bought records todayyyy and decided to buy an external hard drive and just devote my life to downloading everything from every psych blog and being the female fucking MASTER of psych. i think this is much better than dating.
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i'm debating buying a membership to rapidshare because the whole waiting between downloads thing is so annoying...memberships are pretty damn cheap too in comparison how much music you are "acquiring."
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the hard drive was only $69.99, with free shipping. it's a christmas special at newegg.com. you should check it out. they are NOT usually that cheap for that amount of storage.
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