Can't live with or without this guy, but I choose "with"

[angel_allison]

I dont know what to do. I have this friend who has really been hurting me recently. (Not physically, of course, but he's just hasn't been acting like he even gives a shit about me.)It was seriously killing me to care about him, but I really do. And for a while, after he hurt me again this time, I was thinking that'd I'd just give up on him. But now

Comments

[deathisabitch]

I'd wait till he stops being an ass. This is your summer, and you shouldnt have to spend it heart broken. Strive for happiness, and later (maybe when school starts) try again. It's mindblowing how someone could be so negative to Angel Allison. I LOVE YOU!!!

[kajanga]

if the only reason you want to stick with him is out of pity, you're in for a lot of suffering. i can't tell you how many parasitic friendships i poisoned myself with because of the thought that "without me, they won't have any friends." stay with him because you really, truly want to. any other reason will lead to a very unhealthy relationship.

[limefishys]

I really know how you feel. You just don't understand how someone can be so thoughtful and kind one minute, and so hurtful and selfish the next. It sounds like you're at a turning point here. Tell him how you feel, (the next time he stops being an asshole enough to pick up the phone). Tell him that you really value his friendship, and that you don't want to lose it, but that his behaviour is really hurting you. Give him specific examples of the things he's done to hurt you: don't throw them in his face, but calmly tell him how, "When you did such and such, that really hurt me." It's entirely possible that he didn't mean to hurt you, he just doesn't realize that his actions affect other people besides himself. Especially since he doesn't seem to have the best people-skills. Keep your voice calm when you talk to him; don't scream at him, or do anything in an accusatory tone. Just tell him that if his behaviour doesn't change, he's going to lose a great friend

[smarturthanbush]

allison ghaman is too damn cool to have to put up with people taking her for granted. end of story.