want your opinions

[angelicsuccubus]

So Jon has told me that it's ok if I do something with another guy, as long as I do it twice as much with him. So today I asked him "If I were to go out and have some random guy, you'd be ok with that?" and his response was that although he can't say he wouldn't initially be upset, he'd be ok with it. He believes that loving someone means not

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[viana_qoh]

Well, first of all, I don't know Jon. That said, I believe he knows you and probably realizes that you're wanting some freedom, since you just got out of a very restrictive marriage. I think he would probably try to be accepting, but that things could easily get... complicated.

The people I've seen who've tried more open relationships, with the exception of some gay men, have not been very close or healthy in their relationship. That said, sexual freedom is important for many reasons that I know I don't need to tell you about.

Bottom word: Caution.

[feelslikestorms]

i've been there are it was nothing but ugly for me. i actually did it twice, once when i was with a guy and seeing a female and once with a guy when he was seeing another female... both times were rough and more stress than need be. it is important to be yourself and not feel restricted but it is also important to really look into what the other person means not what they say.. if you are wanting more, you should try and include him in the more... unless he is not that really important at the moment. hope it works out for you.. relationships are hard to navigate