its sons who are crap at relationships. no, really...sanghasongMay 22 2003, 06:37:56 UTC
moms have a warped sense of needing a partner, which continues to baffle me.
when i was young & single, my mom was forever urging me to 'settle down', this being to supply her with grandchildren, who she could spoil and stuff. it seemed to matter less to her *who* i was with, as long as 'i was happy'.
but really that should have read 'as long as i was happy in a relationship'. cos, though i spent most of my adult life chasing love in one form or another, i seldom 'settled down' in a relationship. i was big into 'dating', which stateside means you try people out before you get stuck in.
the fact that your mom was prepared to accept casual sex rather than no partners at all doesn't surprise me in this context. but yeah, i'd worry if i were in your place. after all, you must be questioning what her opinions are about 'modern relationships' and so on. maybe she watches too much trisha or kilroy, and her sense of your generation has been distorted as a result?
Lol. Sounds like the kind of conversation my mother would have with me.
One night in undergrad me and some friends were out drinking and ended up at someone's house all night because there was a snowstorm. Come sunrise everyone was calling home to let the parents know they were still alive. While all the men had to be quiet when the women called home (my friends in undergrad were prudes), when I called home, my mother said "oh, I just figured when you didn't come home that you had gotten lucky."
But yes, it does seem like your mother just wants you to not be alone, perhaps because she thinks that is the worst fate of all.
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when i was young & single, my mom was forever urging me to 'settle down', this being to supply her with grandchildren, who she could spoil and stuff. it seemed to matter less to her *who* i was with, as long as 'i was happy'.
but really that should have read 'as long as i was happy in a relationship'. cos, though i spent most of my adult life chasing love in one form or another, i seldom 'settled down' in a relationship. i was big into 'dating', which stateside means you try people out before you get stuck in.
the fact that your mom was prepared to accept casual sex rather than no partners at all doesn't surprise me in this context. but yeah, i'd worry if i were in your place. after all, you must be questioning what her opinions are about 'modern relationships' and so on. maybe she watches too much trisha or kilroy, and her sense of your generation has been distorted as a result?
dunno.
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One night in undergrad me and some friends were out drinking and ended up at someone's house all night because there was a snowstorm. Come sunrise everyone was calling home to let the parents know they were still alive. While all the men had to be quiet when the women called home (my friends in undergrad were prudes), when I called home, my mother said "oh, I just figured when you didn't come home that you had gotten lucky."
But yes, it does seem like your mother just wants you to not be alone, perhaps because she thinks that is the worst fate of all.
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