If I was fat, I'd sit on all of you!!

[angiasaa]

Some people have the tendency to put on weight even though their food intake is low, while some tend to remain thin and look like stick figures. There are also a microscopically small handful who can eat what they feel like and maintain a fairly well balanced coating of fat and muscle

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[sepiaverse]

i know what you mean :) it's kind of like the reaction people have when they see my palms and feet...

the trick is to not let it affect one's self-image :P

[subtle_blues]

It's funny how we say 'self-image' or 'self-esteem' when they are obviously so influenced by what others think of us. It takes a great deal of resilience and years of mental struggle to actually come unstuck from that 'non-self made image'.

[sepiaverse]

that was kinda my point too.. :) i just did not want to talk in long sentences - weekend effect i guess..but ya, conditioning has a self re-inforcing mechanism to it. struggle does nothing but affirm the same along a different vector, but to escape it all is a non-possibility.

[angiasaa]

:) Do they ask you why they're so small and that you ought to do something to fix them? I for one think it's not as much of an irritant. But then again, as with everything else, we evaluate stuff based on the limits of our experiences in life.

It does not affect my self image as such. But it does make me feel bad that people just won't shut up. I wish I was fat for the rest of my life just so these people would shut up and let me live my life like so many others are permitted to do.

[subtle_blues]

but then Indians ARE like that. Try being given tips by women and men alike to make your skin fairer (use fair&lovely, apply cream and turmeric, get a facial, don't drink tea, bla bla bla). Indians just have this obnoxious habit of prodding into anything anomalous about others. Most can not look beyond the physical, you've surely seen the matrimonial ads. They actually feel they are doing the person a favor by advising them on how to fix the anomaly. I don't know what advantages such overly intrusive culture may have. It's one of the reasons I fled India (cowardly move, sure; but I just prefer being invisible and that's what I am here)

[pun_princess]

The discrimination on either side of the equilibrium is stale! The dumb crinkle their nose labeling you *Brainy* while the Nerds squirm at the thought of *Dumb* company irrespective of gender.

I am sick of the cheesy aunties and my gorgeous girl chums telling me how dark I have grown every time they meet after a brief break, the stigma of being fair skinned, I'd rather more melanin and go bare in sun!

The same goes for my curly tresses. People who openly wish to have same as mine do not even know what maintenance the curls demand.

Bottomline, I'm grateful for all of my senses being functional , a brain that works OK most times, a rusty memory but that's something I can put up with too!

Cheers :)

[angiasaa]

Despite everything we have and don't have, some of us would never trade what we have for something else. Not because we're used to it by any means, but because deep down inside, we're in love with who we really are.

I hate the whole surface phenomena. But then, they're only bygones who glue themselves to just the upper layer and spread their fingers in a scream. :)

[pun_princess]

It is a bit difficult to discern if it is love or getting used to something. I hated my curls so much I cribbed all of my early teen years to get my hair straightened. I did straighten them and I hated the way I looked with straight hair.

We all are more or less insecure, but more one loves him/herself the insecurity shrinks. Only self love shouldn't be so over bearing that one fails to appreciate to appreciate the good and beauty different from the within him/her. The one that resides in others-inanimate or animate. :)

I believe self love isn't about indulging him/herself or bragging while somewhere deep down hating thy self for the flaws one knows he/she has or being selfish or it being the one and last love [as orkut professes] :P

No one gets the complete package but we all get the fair deal, don't we? :)

SNUB down the fatties, mow down the impertinent onlookers, give then shit if that is what they want!

[pmax3]

Hey, I understand your pain. I was once where you are - extremely thin. I am still thin, but I am making progress. Here is the secret of all secrets: you are not destined to skinnidom. You can become big - you just have to eat a lot - and add a lot of protein. By a lot I mean think the maximum you have had in a day. Then double it. Double it again. Add some more. That's how much you gotta eat. And forget about putting on lean mass if you are vegeterian. You gotta had some (a lot) meat to your diet. To get to the point - Go to http://www.t-nation.com and search for just the remedy for skinny guys. Or ask somebody at a forum - they will point you to the right place. If you have any doubts, come back to me and I will show you how it's done. I am at 77 kg now and I am planning to rachet it up to 85 over the next two months. We are in this together buddy, don't hesitate to ask anything. Cheers!

[nikitamehta]

*laughs*

so wwill it help if I told you im jealous of your metabolism?

heheheh.. what a thing to be jealous of!!

*giggles*

[angiasaa]

Wwwill it help? No. Wwwould it bring a smile to my face? It would. :)

[nikitamehta]

ahahahah
Im sure it did!

your post made me smile!
And i keep talking about weight issues ( pats tummy)

and the double W was coz I was laughing!

[angiasaa]

Keep patting. Ek din, you won't be so unhappy about it. :)

[inspirethoughts]

I can't put on weight even if I really try hard to do so.

How lucky! Man wish I was like this. I dont need to eat anything just air is enough to make me fat. :(

I understand ur post but I really really really wish I could be like u.

[angiasaa]

It's worse if you're like me. :) It's not about feeling good or bad about myself. I'm fine with how I am. But I'd give an arm and a leg to have people keep their comments to themselves

[inspirethoughts]

Hmm...I totally understand what you say. I have been on both sides. A few years ago I used to be so thin, and I used to live in Chicago back then, and when there are real gutsy winds I actually really move back and forth. I was told by everyone, "Gosh! Aparna, you gotta put on some weight". And now I have put on rather little more weight. And now, I hear, "Oh My God, what have u been eating? U r looking fat? Dont you work out now?....blah blah".

So you see I totally feel and understand what u say. I have been hurt and felt insulted by either comments and now I dont really care. LOL!

And yes, thin people are little less in % compared to fat people and are more vulnerable to such questions.

And I wish I could be fat.. :(

Be careful what you wish for. Cause once the wish comes true there wont be an end to becoming fat. I am telling you from experience. :(

[angiasaa]

:) I've been thin all my life. except when I was still a baby. I'm 28 years old now, and I'm still thin! Even if I live to be a hundred, it's more than a quarter of my life.

Thin or fat though, I'll survive. :) I don't get hurt when people make their remarks and comments, but it does get irritating and feels mighty intrusive.