Comments | animar506: Rules for Posting

animar506

Rules for Posting

Mar 07, 2006 06:07

Hi Friends,
Just a note that there will be no specific names used in the text of the messages. Feel free to discuss ideas, how to accomplish them and just be friends.

The purpose of this list is to learn about restoring friendships and learning about disorders that tend to prevent such relational occurrances.

Thanks for being a part of this

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Have you heard about AS? anonymous March 7 2006, 19:24:01 UTC

Asperger's Syndrome? My family thought I have it but I am sure i don't, I DO notice other people's emotions! I think it is a made up syndrome that combines real autism and real people taht are simply different and don't choose to follow what this society/world wants ( ... )

hi! seekingtheway March 7 2006, 19:32:37 UTC

I just wanted to say hi, and that I want to do all I can to help my friends! This also will link you to my LJ, but don't think that is ME me. It is where I can go to be the me maybe nobody wil let me AND to let poison out. I have to write or I will die. I also do not like censoring myself or ohers TOO much (one must be polite and respectful and tolerant), so my LJ is a different layer of me.
I also write poetry and stories, I had at one time written fan fiction for The Matrix, I have a sight for my AMATURE art, and I have a few other onine journals. Oh, and I have MySpace!

so, who am i? Well, I am empathetic, a Tuarus so loyal friend, caring, different, a gentleman, sweet, and so on and so forth. I am approachable and open-minded and hearted. I am a gnositc Christian, tho.

Anyway, never know what to say but ... hi! And just talk to people. I am wary fo people, BUT I love hearing their stories!

I hope we all can be friends and talk, but most of all help our common lost friend =(

Best!

Re: hi! shyallyn March 11 2006, 23:00:04 UTC

John ( ... )

It's ok seekingtheway March 12 2006, 01:36:32 UTC

sorry I didn't reply earlier, but I've just now gotten back here.
No worries, I accept your apology and I hope you can forgive me for that whole mess. I don't really remember anything bad you did to me, so no problem. I could have handled things better, but it was such an unfair attack on me, I was just shocked and I felt guilty.
It does take two to tango, but I was only trying to help. Sometimes friends have to have tough love for their friends. I did waht I did out of care for this person, NOT to harm them!

Again, I humbly accept your kind words. I hope we can talk freely and figure out how best to help each other and all our friends! Please, let me know what I can do to make this possible.

Here's to friendship!

Re: It's ok shyallyn March 12 2006, 07:21:51 UTC

Glad to hear it. I have already come to the conclusion that you never did anything that needed to be forgiven for. I think you were a better friend than I. :\ We all could have handled things better, but sometimes our anger/shock and sense of betrayal just get the better of us. Mine was in the form of an email. I cannot tell you how out of the blue it felt to me! I lashed out, which I shouldn't have. There is a whole long post in my journal about it, how I felt and everything else. It's past me now. I miss my friend, but I've come to the conclusion that perhaps the relationship as it was, was not good for me? I don't know. I know there is a reason for everything. Anyway, I don't mean to cut this so short, but I need some sleep. I am really tired. I've added you to my f-list, you can go and see why I am so darn exhausted from all that's happened today.

I am glad you accepted my apology.

Asperger's... I begin to wonder. shyallyn March 9 2006, 08:14:00 UTC

I am not so sure I positively believe it's real or not. But I agree that we should question things we are told by Doctors. They are sometimes paid to endorse things, I will draw from personal experience here, because it is what I know. Breastfeeding, for example. It isn't something that the majority of women in the US do. Why? Because we are force-fed ads for formula and they make it seem so easy, put some powder in a bottle, shake it up and voila, you don't have to do anything else. Peds are paid by the formula companies to endorse their product, KNOWING full well that breast milk is by far superior to their product, which is made from cow's milk for the most part and has for years lacked components like DHA and ARA good for a human baby's brain and eye developement. I am not saying anyone who formula feeds is a bad person/mom/parent. On the contrary, I blame the formula companies for being greedy. I think formula is a wonderful invention for adoptive mothers or women who cannot produce enough milk for their offspring. But think ( ... )

Re: Asperger's... I begin to wonder. (cont.) shyallyn March 9 2006, 08:14:35 UTC

Whether Asperger's is real or imagined, I don't think we can say for certain. For many people, their diagnosis was a relief and helped them find the answers they sought. They found a way to cope. For some, it seems to be a curse. A way to stagnate, to blame the world for being mean to them and to stay that way because its easier to do that than to pick oneself up and move forward. To stop seeing that everyone is fallible and we make mistakes that hurt those around us, but it is our love and forgiveness that keep our lives enriched with friendship and family. That is my take. If it's real, then it has helped some and that can't be all bad. Even if it's not, then we still have to consider the good it has done for some people, along with the bad it has done to some people ( ... )

Re: Asperger's... I begin to wonder. (cont.) animar506 March 9 2006, 15:00:01 UTC

I totally agree!! I think that if AS is real each person given that diagnoses (or many other "diseases" also) should choose what to do with that knowledge. It seems foolish to hear how you are wired and choose not to learn from others who have experience the same thing. If there are resources available to use and others to learn from, then why not use those?

No one is perfect, we all have our struggles. Most of us don't have "named" ones tho. Maybe we are better off for it. I don't know.

I believe that a diagnoses certainly could be used for good, and that parents are trying to do just that, but when it is against one's will then it doesn't do much good!

Thanks for posting. :)

Re: Asperger's... I begin to wonder. (cont.) seekingtheway March 12 2006, 02:10:29 UTC

I believe in helping others ... to help themselves. Because "God helps those who help themselves" so doesn't it stand to reason if you can help somebody to help themselves you are helping them get closer to God? Now, it doesn't HAVE to be Christ/Jewish God just because I grew up Methodist and am now gnostic Christian. But, it is a nice thing to do, it's empathy and caring and whatever the person believes it can still help them see their strengths and weaknesses and hopefully how to cope better. TO help somebody be the best they can be is my goal! But, not so it's MY version of htem, but God's version of them. Some people choose to see this as me being high and mighty and egotistical and stuff, but it seems to be said only when they find they cannot agree to disagree anymore. -sigh ( ... )

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