being 30

[annacdotes]

A week ago I turned 30. I had a great time celebrating the first major milestone of my life (18 = freedom but you’re too young to think of it in terms of milestones) and I was neither looking forward to it nor approaching it with fear. I have never been worried about getting older; this is partly because I have always looked at least 5 years

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[hawkida]

Age had never bothered me by itself, I'll be 32 this October and I don't especially care how other people expect me to act, I'm going to act like me. There's a Friends quote that's quite funny but completely at odds with my own thoughts

[annacdotes]

Can you compromise about moving by living somewhere that has easier access to Jersey? or is not a no-starter?

The kids thing really hits you in your 30s especially if you think that an early menopause is an issue. I don't think that many people are ever truly 'ready' for kids - if you are semi-ready you may as well go for it I think.

And yes you're right about acting the way you want to, and I do and always will. It's about not letting your percieved idea about other people's expectations get to you I guess.

[hawkida]

Tobes wants to be back on the island, so no, not really any room for compromise. I can see where he's coming from, but I just don't want to be over there permanently/long term. And he has said that if he has kids then he wants that to happen in Jersey, too.

[annacdotes]

It's a shame that a good relationship sometimes has to break-up over these things. If he is determined to go, then you have to weigh up what's most important in your life. If it's the 2 of you together, I'd say go and deal with the resentments of leaving your life behind you as and when they appear.

[huskyteer]

> 27! No-one in the UK gets ID’d at that age!

A-hem.

[annacdotes]

Ok, nearly no-one. You look young for your age too though.

[huskyteer]

I guess I was asking for trouble that time I went to the beer festival in a Pokémon T-shirt...

[netjunkie]

23 here

Hmm, I never really paid attention to age much... But some of my friends count there years by the day. It's all about how you feel I guess *shrugs*

-Random Rob-

[annacdotes]

You're 23...you have your whole life ahead of you............

No, don't get me wrong I am happy and where I want to be. This sense of unease is vaguely disarming though.

[netjunkie]

I hear people say that all the time "You have your whole life ahead of you" but doesn't everyone in some sense. I mean I've seen so many people work hard and not make it to where they want to be until they were in there prime. I'm just randomly babbling about this I guess, life is so tricky attimes I guess.

I understand your point of view. By the way my name is Rob, nice to meet you.

(and thanks for replying to such a random comment).

[annacdotes]

Hi Rob,
I've friended you. How did you stumble acroess my dull meanderings?

I meant that comment about 'having your whole life ahead of you' ironically. I was parodying an old person by saying it...

Life's always hard but also great - that applies to any age.

[dakegra]

I'm 34, for what it's worth. I have no problem with that.

Though on occasion I do wonder if young people look at me and think of me as old, which bothers me. In my head I'm about 23.

ish.

[annacdotes]

That's one of my fears - looking and seeming old to young people. Not that I think it will happen for a while yet (I hope)!

[dakegra]

It's when you're having a conversation with someone and you suddenly realise that they think you're old...

the grey hairs don't help, in my case...

[annacdotes]

Ah. Women don't have grey hairs until they're at least at retirement age you know :)

[dave_rainbow]

I’m entering the door through which I will always feel young but I won’t always look it.

Very well put. I did a test about my inner age a while ago, and got 24, which is where I felt my head stopped changing in terms of attitude to life. I'm 45. I don't know how to get old in the head. Or maybe I always was ;)