Worst Episode Ever!

[anothermike]

Hi! I think that one of the worst experiences anyone should ever go threw is running into an ex w/ their new hubby or whatever. Yea, so when that happens a guys options are A)Pretend Everything Is Kewl B)Leave In A Rush & Draw Alot Of Attention C)Pretend You Don't See Them D)Beat Thee Almighty Crap Out Of The New One And Only. Yes, I think

Comments

[whymercy]

I'm diplomatic but I know exactly what you are talking about. And it is not fun. But this is what I've done. Probably doesnt'work for everyone but works for me

[anothermike]

Wow, yea the whole friend draggin ya over to the ex thing has happened to me as well. GeeeeZ, I try to stay friends w/ them, it doesn't usually help because of the sad truth that they are infact "Ex's for a reason" as one of my friends puts it. I kinda just play it by ear once I do run into that situation, I test the waters, then take it from there. I just don't know if there's "Ex Ediquete"...

[damnitnicole]

Depends on the people. I mean, I'm friends with most of my exes. If I couldn't deal with them having new girlfriends, I'd have quite a few less friends. For me, it's always been accepted that most relationships don't last, and that unless there's a real, specific reason to not want to see the person at all, there's no need for hostility.

Granted, you look at it differently than I do from the start, so I don't totally know what to tell you. Catch me in person and poke me for thoughts, maybe I'll have something new by then. I talk better than I type.

[anothermike]

Well, guys do things alil more on impulse than girls I guess. I'm a big, dumb caveman when it comes to this stuff.

[damnitnicole]

Guys do what more on impulse?

[anothermike]

Do what? Uhm, ok, back to what I was talkin about... If I see an ex w/ a new love of their life, I'm going to act on impulse more than a girl would probably do (not take time and think it through). That's what I meant.

[chinoiserie]

You know, I've never been able to figure that out. In fact, I think it will forever remain one of life's great mysteries to me: Why is it that I am fine with accepting a breakup, fine with moving on and finding someone new...and yet when I see them with their new person for the first (or the first few) time(s), I'm a big mess? I doubt I'll ever get it

[anothermike]

If I think that their new someone special is making them happier than I could have, I think it would hurt more. I mean, that's a real severe thing. I mean REAL SEVERE. If I can't make the person I'm with happy and someone comes along and grabs them out of my hands and everything changes, I mean, wow... That's the whole deal of me being w/ someone, to make them happy. Kinda makes me feel like a motionless, piece of life, who is "just there" and that's all just from me thinkin about not making that special someone happy. I would really wanna inflict pain on that "new person" in their life I guess, but that again is just on impulse, because there is no "mutual or happy breakups" in my life, only hurtful and missed ones that shoot through my head from time to time, to guarantee an infinite depression. (Poetic, Huh?)

[chinoiserie]

It's the kind of poetry that I've stopped trying to write. Trust me, I have "written" enough of that kind of stuff in my life to completely understand it. I think my view on relationships has only gotten me into trouble in my own head, so I'm trying to change it. I tend to stay in relationships far longer than I should, because I have this sick optimism that everything's going to work out if we try hard enough, and the thought of someone I'm with eventually leaving and *gasp* meeting someone else who *gasp* makes them happier...it hurts. That sinking, nauseating kind of hurt. It drives me nuts