i also agree with you in that it shouldn't just be an excuse for people to drink, and that no one should feel excluded and it should just be a really nice bonding, relaxing time with everyone.
however... we then reach a problem. we can't really tell people not to drink. that's just how a lot of people have fun. while i am fully aware that i can have a great time without drinking, and have gone to several parties where i haven't been drinking, that's not true for everyone. some people really would enjoy themselves more (or they think they will) if they're drinking. i don't agree with this... but it is how some people feel. i'm worried that if we ask people not to drink (or encourage them not to... whatever) it will almost be more dividing, because there will be those people who are upset and angry that people don't want them to drink/enjoy themselves.
i completely agree with you. don't get me wrong. i just don't want people to get their hopes up... it's hard to change old traditions.
Rob, I agree with you 100%. I'm not against drinking either, but I don't think the cast party should be an excuse to get drunk. Half the people in the play get drunk every other (or every) weekend, right? "It would be a real shame not to have a cast party because people wanted to drink." I could not have said it any better myself.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with drinking with friends, but it would be completely lame if people would rather be out doing so than just having one last fun night with a cast they "love" will supposedly "miss so much".
If people came drunk/ high then whatever. I mean, it's not the fact that people drink/smoke that bothers me, it's the fact that we might not have a cast party because there may not be smoking/drinking involved. Honestly, if you absolutely NEED to smoke or drink, just do it before and come. I might not enjoy your company depending on how you're behaving, but it's your choice. But not having a party with everyone for one last cast event just because you won't be able to "get smashed" or "blaze up" or whatever, that's immensly dumb. Again, I have no problem with any substance use, but don't cancel the party because there's a possibility it might not happen that night.
Idk! I thought this meant people were saying there wasn't going to be a party, which would be stupid. I mean, the actual use of substance at the party is no issue for me, it's just if there are people out there saying "No drinking, no party" then it's kind of lame. You know?
i agree with you totally. i was really sad last year when the last memory of les mis was people getting drunk/high and because i didn't i barely got to hang out with them. I don't want to feel that way again this year. *mk
i agree with all these people, and you, that it can be a shame to let your last memory of all the cast together as a group possibly be discolored by drinking and the possibility that someone's parents could be blamed for our own choices. however, i do see michela's point that it would be hard to change tradition.
whatever happens, i'm glad that you could feel secure enough to voice your opinion freely. thanks rob. -dana
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i also agree with you in that it shouldn't just be an excuse for people to drink, and that no one should feel excluded and it should just be a really nice bonding, relaxing time with everyone.
however... we then reach a problem. we can't really tell people not to drink. that's just how a lot of people have fun. while i am fully aware that i can have a great time without drinking, and have gone to several parties where i haven't been drinking, that's not true for everyone. some people really would enjoy themselves more (or they think they will) if they're drinking. i don't agree with this... but it is how some people feel. i'm worried that if we ask people not to drink (or encourage them not to... whatever) it will almost be more dividing, because there will be those people who are upset and angry that people don't want them to drink/enjoy themselves.
i completely agree with you. don't get me wrong. i just don't want people to get their hopes up... it's hard to change old traditions.
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with drinking with friends, but it would be completely lame if people would rather be out doing so than just having one last fun night with a cast they "love" will supposedly "miss so much".
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If people came drunk/ high then whatever. I mean, it's not the fact that people drink/smoke that bothers me, it's the fact that we might not have a cast party because there may not be smoking/drinking involved. Honestly, if you absolutely NEED to smoke or drink, just do it before and come. I might not enjoy your company depending on how you're behaving, but it's your choice. But not having a party with everyone for one last cast event just because you won't be able to "get smashed" or "blaze up" or whatever, that's immensly dumb. Again, I have no problem with any substance use, but don't cancel the party because there's a possibility it might not happen that night.
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however, i do see michela's point that it would be hard to change tradition.
whatever happens, i'm glad that you could feel secure enough to voice your opinion freely. thanks rob.
-dana
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