About a week ago....
When I was being lazy and playing WoW, I came across another player who helped me out (somewhat surprising). I thanked him and moved on. He followed me. I didn't think much of it. He helped me out again. I thanked him. He's the highest level you can (currently) get in the game: 60.
I've gotten used to wondering about the game on my own and not really accepting help. I have friends who play and once in a while, I'll catch them online but it's rare. I guess because of JG picking the game over me, I prefer to play the game on my own if I play at all.
The guy just helped me. Didn't say a word. Didn't say "welcome" to my thanks and I finally sent him a whisper: Thanks for the help. I don't want to keep you from anything.....
He was silent and just helped me for a minute and then he said: I have nothing better to do.
I'm not very good company, I responded, I've gotten rather used to playing on my own.... I don't think you want to help me.... I think you want to talk to someone? Is that true?
He was silent and I moved along to a safe place. Yes, he responded, my girlfriend left me.... She said I played this game too much and she dumped me.
I am the absolute WORSE person to talk about this to, I responded, I'm not exactly sure what to say. My boyfriend dumped me so he dedicate more time to the game. You've met the worse person on WoW to talk to about this problem.
I'm sorry.
Well, it hurts like a $%*&# to be less important than a computer game. I can tell you that. There were other factors that were wrong, of course, but he didn't want to work on the relationship at all. Just play WoW. When he realized that a relationship took actual work, he dumped me. Loaded up his computer and WoW and left. Like I said, I'm the worse person to talk to about this.
I didn't think I was hurting anyone by playing a computer game, he typed.
No....but you were ignoring someone who cared about you. What did you want her to do?
I don't know.
Do you know now?
Yes.
And yet, you're still here. Do you think you could go after her?
No. She already has another boyfriend.
I'm sorry. I really am but.....when did a machine and a game become more important than a human being?
I didn't mean to.
Doesn't really change anything but don't worry, I'm here too. I'm not condemning you for playing WoW. I play WoW too. My boyfriend made his choice and it's not the game's fault. I don't blame WoW or Blizzard. It was his choice.
I should've gone after her. I should've tried.
Yes, you should've but it's too late now, isn't it?
He was silent for well over a minute.
Are you crying? I typed.
No, of course not. I mean....I'm really not.
Want some advice?
Yes.
Do you have friends outside the game?
Yes, of course.
Hang out with them more in person. The only way to meet new people is to network. Force yourself if you have to ....to go to something social once a month. Something that requires you to meet new people. You might meet someone else. You won't meet anyone here. Not anyone that you would probably like to have an intimate relationship with.
You seem nice.
I'm a person inside a box. You won't get more than that. I can do the slutty night elf dance if you want but it won't be more than that. You will meet other people if you really want but you have to leave WoW first. ;-D And it requires work. Anytime you want a friendship or a lover, it requires work and maybe a bit of sacrifice.
I know.
You might even have to sacrifice some WoW time to make someone else feel like they matter.
I know.
Then, I can only wish you good luck and good night.
Thanks. Thank you for the advice. I'll try.
I'm sorry that ....I'm not more...friendly about this. I came from the other direction so I know what it's like to be treated like you don't matter. This is very hard but at least, you want to meet women and work on it. You're one up on my ex and a better man than he will ever be because of that. Good night.
Weird. I am not here to provide therapy to WoWers. I'm just not....
Weird.....
I've gotten used to wondering about the game on my own and not really accepting help. I have friends who play and once in a while, I'll catch them online but it's rare. I guess because of JG picking the game over me, I prefer to play the game on my own if I play at all.
The guy just helped me. Didn't say a word. Didn't say "welcome" to my thanks and I finally sent him a whisper: Thanks for the help. I don't want to keep you from anything.....
He was silent and just helped me for a minute and then he said: I have nothing better to do.
I'm not very good company, I responded, I've gotten rather used to playing on my own.... I don't think you want to help me.... I think you want to talk to someone? Is that true?
He was silent and I moved along to a safe place. Yes, he responded, my girlfriend left me.... She said I played this game too much and she dumped me.
I am the absolute WORSE person to talk about this to, I responded, I'm not exactly sure what to say. My boyfriend dumped me so he dedicate more time to the game. You've met the worse person on WoW to talk to about this problem.
I'm sorry.
Well, it hurts like a $%*&# to be less important than a computer game. I can tell you that. There were other factors that were wrong, of course, but he didn't want to work on the relationship at all. Just play WoW. When he realized that a relationship took actual work, he dumped me. Loaded up his computer and WoW and left. Like I said, I'm the worse person to talk to about this.
I didn't think I was hurting anyone by playing a computer game, he typed.
No....but you were ignoring someone who cared about you. What did you want her to do?
I don't know.
Do you know now?
Yes.
And yet, you're still here. Do you think you could go after her?
No. She already has another boyfriend.
I'm sorry. I really am but.....when did a machine and a game become more important than a human being?
I didn't mean to.
Doesn't really change anything but don't worry, I'm here too. I'm not condemning you for playing WoW. I play WoW too. My boyfriend made his choice and it's not the game's fault. I don't blame WoW or Blizzard. It was his choice.
I should've gone after her. I should've tried.
Yes, you should've but it's too late now, isn't it?
He was silent for well over a minute.
Are you crying? I typed.
No, of course not. I mean....I'm really not.
Want some advice?
Yes.
Do you have friends outside the game?
Yes, of course.
Hang out with them more in person. The only way to meet new people is to network. Force yourself if you have to ....to go to something social once a month. Something that requires you to meet new people. You might meet someone else. You won't meet anyone here. Not anyone that you would probably like to have an intimate relationship with.
You seem nice.
I'm a person inside a box. You won't get more than that. I can do the slutty night elf dance if you want but it won't be more than that. You will meet other people if you really want but you have to leave WoW first. ;-D And it requires work. Anytime you want a friendship or a lover, it requires work and maybe a bit of sacrifice.
I know.
You might even have to sacrifice some WoW time to make someone else feel like they matter.
I know.
Then, I can only wish you good luck and good night.
Thanks. Thank you for the advice. I'll try.
I'm sorry that ....I'm not more...friendly about this. I came from the other direction so I know what it's like to be treated like you don't matter. This is very hard but at least, you want to meet women and work on it. You're one up on my ex and a better man than he will ever be because of that. Good night.
Weird. I am not here to provide therapy to WoWers. I'm just not....
Weird.....