From Paris to Nowhere

[apeliotes]

While I was in Paris--I believe it was Friday, but I'll have to verify the day--my paternal grandmother died. Not long after I had posted the last entry, I checked my telephone to find a good many messages, text and voice, from my mother. She stressed the urgency of her subject, but did not reveal it over that medium. The last message I received

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[unbleachedbrun]

After all my years of experience as a trust and estate lawyer, one thing I've observed is that people mourn the passing of certain familial relatives, particularly parents and grandparents, even when those relationships have become distant or estranged. The problem for many people, though, is that guilt, fear, and/or anger can keep the survivors from recognizing and admitting their grief, and some think they have no mourning to do or that they have no right to grieve. This is wrong; they do need to grieve in their own way. While there may have been challenges and negative memories, I hope you will be able to think of the good times, happy memories, and whatever love you might find. Recognize your need to mourn, and don't let guilt inhibit this natural process

[e_m_k]

My condolences as well.