Spring cleaning

[apexsensation]

I sent an email to Bree on March 10th (three days before spring break) about doing something either that weekend or during the following week. She replied four days later, effectively killing weekend plans, ignored the part about hanging out, and told me what had been going on with her in the last month or more since we'd last had contact. I sent

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[enemabagjones]

Armchair analysis of you and the other kindred loser-magnets in my life: you're not a bad judge of character so much as a good-hearted person. Benefit of doubt is a rare commodity, and people who don't take care of their people are always on the prowl for a new source of it.

I think it's important to give everyone a fair shot, but you can't blame yourself when friendships go toxic-flaky. You needn't feel guilty cutting losses either.

And "Static and Silence" is a great album for this state of mind. Kudos on your choice.

[apexsensation]

Fair shot definitely sums up what I've given everyone. After all of the chances I've given people, I could cut my losses yesterday and still feel no guilt over cutting them loose. Of course, various friends mean a lot to me, so doing so is easier said than done.

I could go the route of confrontation (which I've done with a lot of success) but I never like doing it because it makes whatever change that happens between us feel like *I* caused them to change and it wasn't their realization that they'd dropped the ball.

I think most of them have run their course, which is sad because almost all of them are friendships I've had for less than four years.