katie fucking moved all her shit into my room without talking to me about it. she basically left me a voicemail that said "I'm doing this hope it's ok bye
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move her stuff, she said she hopes this is ok and it is not and it is not like she isn't getting a room and your doing extra work but you also can't get your stuff anywhere else till later otherwise, so leave her a message saying what your doing and why, if it is a problem she can sort it out after burning man
yeah... I'm really torn about what to do. on the one hand, Katie is one of my favorite people on the planet. in light of a years worth of drama that fractured the network of friends I've had since middleschool/highschool beyond repair, I'm pretty terrified of the drama or at least resentment that could be brought out of us both wanting the same room (and the slight inherent in making self-interested decisions involving friends who are not there to make their case.)
on the other hand, I have been wronged here. I am upset about it. if there's one thing I have learned about myself it's that if I ignore how I feel about something I, and usually a number of other people, end up paying for it later.
so it is a choice of being rightly pissed but putting assuming "bigger man" stance, or put her in the same boat she put me in.
well the good thing about moving her out for now is that it allows you to move in and talk to her before she gets back and calm down while also giving you the option to look at the other rooms and changing your mind about the room if it is needed too
no. I have to decide what I am going to do first. I don't really know the other room, and it might be fine. I've always really admired that particular room, and there was never any question that I would be living there until I got a voicemail from Katie saying she had filled it with her things. the fact that it was done with neither my consultation or consent is what gets me. it was a choice that effects my life, made without me, and I feel deeply disrespected by it.
i agree with stina. then you can call her or talk to her when she gets' back and explane to her that you had you eye on the room and that you men't no ill will by moving her things.
i don't think there will be a shit storm out of this and i understand being worried about it. but katie's a chill person and wouldn't be to upset about it. idk i think you're right on this tho
it's not even really the room I'm upset about. the other room is about the same size, but has corners instead of a round wall, and is much less sunshiny.
it's the audacity of someone I a close friend doing something that could well change the course of our friendship without batting an eyelash.
the above story is missing an element, though. I brought it up when seeking advice one on one, but it should be stated here as well that there is a possibility I will be moving from this house into an apartment with David (who is my boyfriend) in December/January. Katie really wants to settle into this place and sees my residency there as a passing fancy. which has become another aggravating aspect to this whole thing*, but that's besides the point.
moving in December rests on a lot of pretty big ifs, and even if I do move then, I staunchly believe that does not give her the green light to outright steal my room.
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on the one hand, Katie is one of my favorite people on the planet. in light of a years worth of drama that fractured the network of friends I've had since middleschool/highschool beyond repair, I'm pretty terrified of the drama or at least resentment that could be brought out of us both wanting the same room (and the slight inherent in making self-interested decisions involving friends who are not there to make their case.)
on the other hand, I have been wronged here. I am upset about it.
if there's one thing I have learned about myself it's that if I ignore how I feel about something I, and usually a number of other people, end up paying for it later.
so it is a choice of being rightly pissed but putting assuming "bigger man" stance, or put her in the same boat she put me in.
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i don't think there will be a shit storm out of this and i understand being worried about it. but katie's a chill person and wouldn't be to upset about it. idk i think you're right on this tho
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it's the audacity of someone I a close friend doing something that could well change the course of our friendship without batting an eyelash.
the above story is missing an element, though. I brought it up when seeking advice one on one, but it should be stated here as well that there is a possibility I will be moving from this house into an apartment with David (who is my boyfriend) in December/January. Katie really wants to settle into this place and sees my residency there as a passing fancy. which has become another aggravating aspect to this whole thing*, but that's besides the point.
moving in December rests on a lot of pretty big ifs, and even if I do move then, I staunchly believe that does not give her the green light to outright steal my room.
*there was more, but it got rantish and spiteful.
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